Originally Posted by bjohnrupp
Once a week she'll text me to see how I'm doing ( I guess out of guilt/pity) I can't help but respond to her even though I know I'm not supposed to, I figure its better to have her in my life to some degree rather than not at all.
I went on 4 dates and wanted to leave the second I got there. I felt really weird being somewhere with someone other than my ex.
Last week we talked on the phone for the 1st time since she dumped me. So I guess she dumped me for an ex from 4 years ago?!
I guess a part of me thinks that maybe someday down the road we can get back together. I know its just wishful thinking. I guess I regret not trying to have a baby with her because if we did have a baby she wouldn't have left I'm sure.
Even though you know what you need to do, you cave in and keep making the wrong decisions.
Why do you feel this way? Because you keep talking to her.
Better to have her in your life in some degree than not? She is not something you need and keeping in contact will keep you in that state of mind.
She has dumped you for another, do you think that kind of person could make you happy?
A baby would of made this mess much, MUCH worse and NC will let you see that TRAPPING your girlfriend is not a solution for happiness.
Give yourself time to be alone for a while, you are not ready to rationalize and create solutions for yourself. Believe me when I tell you, NC is the best thing you can do for yourself so you can see you are much better off without her. Trust me, once you go NC and stick to it, things will start falling into the right places.