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Hmm, I noticed that as guys tend to get older, they want to settle down; therefore, they would prefer being with someone "pure" instead of with a girl who has a history. This leads me to another question. Why is it when a girl has sex she's labeled as a "whore" but when a guy has sex, it's understandable?
These are very broad questions and simply way over-generalized. Sort of like asking, why do all women say men are pigs? They don't.
Not all men prefer virgins. I would almost agree that young men do, but that's not always true either. As young men, we hear that virgins are "tighter" and thus there's more sensation for the man (boy? ) while having sex. This is categorically untrue however. And any smart guy will figure this out. So it becomes a status issue. I think you'll find that guys that chase virgins are the same guys that chase supermodels. They want a fantasy and not reality (and chances are will get neither one)
In the same vein, women are not whores because they have a lot of sexual partners. It seems to be more socially acceptable for a male to be more promiscuous, but even that is starting to go away. Terms like whore and slut start popping up when a girl ends up sleeping with guys like the aforementioned fantasy chaser and something goes wrong.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that there are a lot of nice, normal guys out there who don't follow these patterns. But, it seems we always get labelled by the bad deeds of the bad guys. It's unfortunate.
There's nothing wrong with being CHASTE and being faithful.
I sort of resent the idea that my morals are lacking because I've had more than one sex partner.
As far as being a virgin...I am a woman, and I've NEVER liked dating virgins. They don't know what the heck they're doing! I've noticed that most of the men I dated have the same feelings on the subject...but that may be because I never dated guys that would judge my whole character based on my sex life.
As it's been said...some guys care, some guys don't.
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GoldieMae disagrees: In Asian countries, prostitution is all over the place, and men are rarely if ever faithful.
I was saying in Asia countries, Men prefer to marry a virgin. Ask any Asian man. It's a tradition, men respect women who keep their purity til marriage.
Have u been to Asia countries? I mean 90% of the Asia countries? In Thai it's legal, but in most Asia countries ppl are still conservative and traditional. Prosititution happens everywhere. It's not encouraged and is illegal where I have lived.
To fall in love doesn't need to have sex. That's the hearts and spirits holding the relationship.
There is nothing wrong to have morals and be faithful.
again, morality has many ways of being defined. some would state that countries that suppress womens rights and allow for sweatshop working conditions are without morals.
again, morality has many ways of being defined. some would state that countries that suppress womens rights and allow for sweatshop working conditions are without morals.
That's true. Traveling will help you learn more about different cultrues...when I was living in Asian countries, I heard Americans have sex on the street. Now I am in America, that's not what I see.
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GoldieMae disagrees: In Asian countries, prostitution is all over the place, and men are rarely if ever faithful.
I was saying in Asia countries, Men prefer to marry a virgin. Ask any Asian man. It's a tradition, men respect women who keep their purity til marriage.
Have u been to Asia countries? I mean 90% of the Asia countries? In Thai it's legal, but in most Asia countries ppl are still conservative and traditional. Prosititution happens everywhere. It's not encouraged and is illegal where I have lived.
To fall in love doesn't need to have sex. That's the hearts and spirits holding the relationship.
Absolutely. Otherwise I wouldn't have made the comment. Almost moved to Tokyo last month.
There's nothing like a culture (think Japan - touted as conservative and traditional) that puts the wife on some untouchable pedestal and expects her to be chaste and pure, while men fullfill their needs with a mistress. Having a "lesser wife" is still pretty common in Japan. And what's with the porn vending machines in the subway? And they have the lowest intra-marital sex rate in the world.
Hong Kong gentlemen's clubs are notorious. As are Hong Kong "gentlemen."
Thailand is a top "business" vacation spot for Singaporans. Taipei, Taiwan is another "business" vacation spot for Japanese.
I have no personal knowledge of marital relations and taboos in Korea or Vietnam, other than what I learned watching "Full Metal Jacket."
I'm not at all saying that being a virgin when one gets married isn't a commendable thing, but to pick Asia (generally speaking) as an example? You need to be a little more specific than just saying a region that takes up a good quarter sized land chunk of the world.
To the original poster, I am sorry. I don't want to hijack your thread. As for what men think about virgins, it depends on the man and the age of the woman.
Most people in the US are getting married later in life, and most do not expect that their significant other will be a virgin at 30. However, in high school, stay a virgin. Reputation is everything. In college, make the choice based on the person and on love. Many men will respect a woman who is intimate with someone she loved over a woman who has had multiple sexual relations with men she didn't love.
GoldieMae i think you are taking a little bit of a wide brush with your sweeping comments of Asian countries and culture. And in a way so did nicespringgirl with her comments.
And in actual fact in Thailand prostitution is illegal, has been since 1960, however it is not policed.
I think nicespringgirl was simply posting what her experiences with men and their opinions in the culture she grew up in. To disagree with her is uncalled for. Your culture is no more important or correct than hers. And remember Asia might be a "quarter sized chunk of the world" but it makes up half of its population. So there cultural beliefs are relevant to the discussion.
Virgins are glorified as much in western cultures as they are in any other from what i have seen growing up as a young male. TV shows, movies, magazines etc. love to spruik about someone being a virgin and the lucky man who will be her first.
I dont agree with it and to me personally it means nothing.
So to answer the OP. Most men from my culture don't expect women to be virgins. Not at all. But for some it has an appeal and sense of excitement about it that has been beat up by media / entertainment sources. The idea of virgins being pure blah blah has been around since biblical times and for some reasons it means something to some people. But not many!
) while having sex. This is categorically untrue however. And any smart guy will figure this out. So it becomes a status issue. I think you'll find that guys that chase virgins are the same guys that chase supermodels. They want a fantasy and not reality (and chances are will get neither one)
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