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Still Hurts

Some of you know my story, basically I am still finding it quite hard to come to terms with though. I was doing so well, I seem to have slipped back downhill the past couple of weeks : ( just depressed really, and thinking basically he doesn't want to know me anymore : ( I have been unable to get my driving lessons the past couple of weeks, and my work is very quiet, I think that these things have not helped, as I always try to keep busy.

It has been almost 7 weeks since I contacted my ex, this is the longest I have managed to not contact him which is great, but beginning to feel a bit sick inside that I will never be with him again. He hasn't contacted me and that really hurts me so much : ( I know there is no reason to, other than he has my stuff, but I am finding it really hard to get my head round everything, how someone can just forget about you I suppose.

I was wondering if I should call him after it has been 2 months, or whether I should just leave it. I am wondering if he will ever come back but with time going on I doubt it.

The good thing is I have my new flat to look forward to, I intend to spend a lot of time sorting things out with, including during the Christmas holidays.

I have been doing so well, it's a shame I am dreaming about him at night, and thinking about him during the day unintentionally : ( this is making me quite stressed and not my normal self.

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Old Nov 2, 2006, 03:03 AM   #2  
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No dont contact him AT ALL... it may just make u feel worse.

What you're going through is just like a grieving process.
I went through it, it was a totally different scenario, but when dads sudden illness then death, caused me alot of heartache, and i was up 1 day, down for 2, up and down like a total yoyo..

You have to be strong its a tough time of your life, just like mine was 2 years ago.

Time heals, believe me when i say it. But when i say time i seriously dont meen 2 - 3 months ok... its take time

Good luck dear x
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Trying to get in touch with him will only create false hope dear, and it will hurt all over again, just more this time.

I send hugs, and well wishes, take care of yourself.
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thanks Krs and Sentra, part of me is just worried as well because what if I didn't call him and there was a chance he would come back? I know that's not the right way to think too, but you can't help to think that way. Why would he keep my stuff as well?
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OMG is that you in the icon dressed up as a fairy/angel?

GET YOUR CUTE PIXIE SELF OUT THERE IN THE WORLD!!!!
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ha ha yes, that is daft old me!
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I stayed in touch with my ex. How could I not - I thought about him all the time, I felt sick inside and dremt about him at night. We emailed and it got to a point where his attitude changed and he actually said to me he was "flippant" because he didnt want to give me false hope.
I told him I missed him and he said he did not miss me nor did he think of me anymore.
This hurt more than the pain of not talking to him
Please babe - please don'tput yourself through what I went through. You dont want to let him hurt ou again, by talking to him your giving him the chance to.
He knows where the phone is.
Be strong.
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thanks Krs and Sentra, part of me is just worried as well because what if I didn't call him and there was a chance he would come back? I know that's not the right way to think too, but you can't help to think that way. Why would he keep my stuff as well?
You're welcome

really and truly if he did want u back he would call u himself, wouldnt he?

Be strong xx
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: ( ok thanks guys, it is hard because I have bored people with all this, I think they maybe think I should be over it by now. So, I try not to talk about it a lot as I sound like a broken record. I don't speak about it when I am out which is good. Oh, I know what you mean, as my ex would email me back as well when I emailed him, but then when I did it more he maybe wouldn't reply, and when I text him he wouldn't reply at all : (
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Forget him love .
For your own sake.
Look at yourself in the mirror and if u see what i see in your pic wap you're gorgeous.. its his loss.
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