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fjsmith81 · Jul 7, 2008, 10:28 PM

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Originally Posted by chuff

I don't agree with you. I think if you read what Jolie has wrote here, and most of the following posts, the subject matter is not really directed at getting the person back that left, it's about getting the person back that matters most, that being yourself. Relationships tend to change people, and when they are over the confusion and void create a lot unsettling emotions. This post if you read is clearly about getting yourself back, the other person is secondary....if even relevant at all.

I think that is the most important thing. I read the title of this post and I got curious. I even laughed a little when I read the title. I could never understand the reasoning for a person wanting to get back with an ex. They are your ex for a reason, but if that is what you want then here goes. If you want to get back with an ex the only thing you need to do is move on. Don't sit around waiting for the phone to ring, stop dreaming that this person will realize that they made the wrong decision, start loving yourself (you should have never stopped in the first place) Realize that no one but you determines what is going to happen and decide if you are going to be happy, because when you try to get your ex back you are saying that they get to decide your happiness. I have had my fair share of relationships where I have broken up with someone and someone has broken up with me and every time a relationship ends I think to myself oh well that happens and that is what life is all about. It makes you a stronger person and you should learn a few things. And I evaluate the past relationship and take it only as a lesson. And I am going to tell you more times than none they always come sniffing back, but by that time it is too late. I don't see the person the same way anymore because I have moved on and that person is no longer good enough for me. And if I did decide to get back together with them then who's to say that it wouldn't happen again(and yes nine times out of ten the relationship ends again). So I don't go that route. When it's over it's over. And that is how anyone trying to get an ex back should feel. They are your ex for a reason and it is not your job to get them back if they truly wanted to be with you they would have not ended it in the first place.

8288 · Jul 14, 2008, 10:00 AM

Good Post. Great treatment for one who fall and feel because of love. Am one of them..
Heartily thanks

hardfeellove · Jul 18, 2008, 06:09 PM

[quote=jolienoire]How to get him/her back..

Ha, if you are reading this it means you are hoping you can win a loved one back. You are desperately seeking solutions in which you already know the answers to. You want to show them how big of a mistake they made. How foolish they were. How you were the best thing that ever happened to them.

You want them back, you can

tootired75 · Jul 19, 2008, 11:35 PM

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I also know that low-self esteem and lack of confidence comes from us looking to others to validate us. And all the hope and time we put into them can be taken away with a blink of an eye. Then we loose all hope. I think my divorce was the best thing that ever happened to me because it was never really the best thing for me in the first place, but it took me time to recover and get use to the fact that I would be a divorced single mother of two beautiful children. Years ago I wouldn't picture me at this point in my life where I am as strong as I am. But I am here, and Now I am helping others who are where I was 4 years ago.

I just joined this site tonight while looking for information regarding how to handle the two ira accounts that I have received from a recent divorce. I thought this was strictly a finacial planning/investment site. Lol

Quick synopsis: married 12 years, 2 young kids, separated last year, not a single tear shed over the lost marriage. I don't think we ever truly loved each other and remain friends.

After the divorce I met someone. He wanted a commitment, I didn't at the time. He pushed and I fell for him. HARD! I had never been treated better or felt so incredibly loved and accepted. The chemistry was amazing as well. He ended up moving to my city with his daughter to be closer. He and I had our future planned.

One day out of the blue (it seems to me) he broke up with me. I have never experienced this thing everyone calls brokenhearted, even in regards to the divorce. Until now. I am devastated. I know logically what I need to do but emotionally I just can't move on.

I wonder if a big part of my feeling so utterly broken and lonely is because I have never been alone and now I am. I completely lack self esteem and have made a few choices that were pretty immature for my age.

I don't know why I posted this, lack of sleep can make one delirious I guess. Sorry for rambling.

jaywave · Jul 20, 2008, 02:09 AM

I've just posted a question

Is she playing a game?

And jolie?....it scares me how much of what you said is what I did. But with me, our relationship seemed pretty solid after the first break up. I could kind of understand if she cheated on me if our relationship was stale and declining, but right up until the day she left on holiday I thought we were so in love! She certainly gave that impression. Guess that first 12 hours pretty much summed up what the relationship was....a total waste of time, money and effort.

chuff · Jul 20, 2008, 07:57 AM

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