I've got a girlfriend but still dating my ex and still wants my ex's friend........

Actually it IS that simple. You want solutions on how to stop cheating on your girlfriend? You stop. It's that simple.

You claim to love your girlfriend. You claim that you would never want to do anything to hurt her. Your actions are showing that to be anything but the truth. You are constantly lying to her and cheating on her. That's not how you treat someone you love.

How would you like it if she cheated on you? I'm guessing you wouldn't accept any of the lies you've spouted in here as valid excuses.

If you really are so weak that you're incapable of NOT having sex with other women, then you need to end the relationship.

Those are your options. The solutions you came here asking for. Stop cheating. Or get single.

Oh, and your girlfriend WILL find out. My guess is that she already suspects, she just lacks proof at this point. Either she will find the evidence she needs, or someone will tell her. Someone who cares about her, or just wants to ruin your life, will see you out with your ex and tell your girlfriend about it.

What will you do when she confronts you? Keep lying to her? Try to convince her that it was innocent? Finally grow a pair and tell the truth? Somehow I doubt the last one.

Put yourself in my shoes. Would you tell your girlfriend something you know will tear her heart apart and hurt her?NO I don't think so. So why you expect me to tell her. I will never tell her because I do not want to hurt her, she means a lot to me more than the world itself. And nope she chose another guy over me while our relationship was on hold, I put it on hold because I didn't like the way she was behaving

Talinama, I don't think its a good notion to delee my threat again. There are people out there who are not heartless, who wants to help out of their loving heart. If you don't want to help me, then leave it, its fine, but allow other people to help. The problem that I am experiencing, you might find someone is having the same problem so reading all this will assist that person. Do not prevent us to get help, you were once at this stage and no one prevented you from getting assistance from other people. Be generous for once please

First, you ONLY disagree if the post is FACTUALLY incorrect of dangerous. My post was neither. It is against the rules to give someone a reddie, ie. Disagree, just because you don't agree with their opinion.

Second, I HAVE felt that. I have, unfortunately, had to hurt people in the past.

I broke up with one ex because I was developing feelings for someone else and didn't find it fair to either of us to continue the relationship. Nothing ended up happening with the other person, but I didn't want to end up cheating if something did. Not to mention, it wasn't fair that I wasn't fully invested in the relationship.

I ended an engagement when it became clear I wouldn't be able to give my all to the relationship, and that they weren't willing to give their's. I was DEEPLY in love. It literally tore me apart to end it, but it needed to be done. That was more than a year and a half ago, and I'm STILL not completely healed.

Do NOT tell me that I have no idea what it feels like to hurt someone, or be hurt, or be in love. I have known all three, and survived them.

Notice, I broke things off BEFORE cheating even became a real option. There is NEVER a good excuse for cheating. The only thing it shows is that you don't have enough respect for her, or yourself, to be honest and faithful.

I hope she ends up stumbling across the posts you've made here. That'll save you the trouble of having to end things. She'll do it for you.

I am not here to brag, I do not have to waste. And I can't tell her what I have been doing or what I did. Its not easy to tell someone you love that you've been unfaithful to them. Its not easy as you make it sounds. For your info I deserve my girlfriend, I am having a problem just like anyone in a relationship. No one is perfect, even yourself you not perfect, there's a part where you lacking as well. I am content that I'll be well soon, I'll try to fix it before my girlfriend finds out and me and her can have a proper relationship without the ex. I just cannot resist my ex, and I believe it happens to most men, there's someone you cannot resist.

<<put yourself in my shoes, would you tell your girlfriend something you know would tear her heart apart?>>

Too late. Are you going to lie to her for the rest of your relationship? How is that any less hurtfull? Lying to her is far more hurtfull than just being honest and telling the truth. Not only is your current relationship with her very unhealthy, you are a very unhealthy person.

<<if you don't want to help me then leave it>>
It seems you disagree with most of the people who have given you advice- probably because it's not exactly what you want to hear. But you have to realize that what you are doing to this girl is cruel, and most people do not apprieciate, or condone the behavior of a dipsh*t. And let's be honest, guys who cheat are just that. As I said earlier, not only do you have to deal with the fact that you are a cheater, but so will your current girlfriend, so does your ex girlfriend, so does the girl you're putting the moves on, and your future wife (if any) will marry into this disaster...You are ruining your future. Think of your girlfriend, your future spouse, and not yourself for once.

Once again, I dare you to say that you love this girl. If you loved her, you wouldn't have cheated. Cheaters know how to lust, they don't know how to love. You DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT, love this poor girl that you are lying to, and cheating on. Sparing her the dirty dirty details IS NOT, IS NOT, IS NOT, love...Do you get it?

And no, it does not happen to most men. Most men and women who see someone they desire, LOVE their partner enough not to act on it. Why don't you learn how to treat a woman? I feel terrible for your poor girlfriend, trying to hide things on her. It's torture for me to read about what a disrespectful, demeaning, pathetic, ignorant jerk you are to women.

Jaytdk disagrees : My girlfriend is not a victim and I will never make her a victim, she is my queen

If she is your "queen" then why are you cheating on her? Henry the Eighth killed most of his wives. Is that your plan, to kill this girl with shame and heartbreak?

You put the "boy" in boyfriend.

On your avatar, your location is "the centre of the planet". Well, your planet must be small, and EVERYTHING in it small also. Heart, brain, and especially balls.

For her to be your queen, you have to be a king.

More like the court jester I say.

So to sum up the advice given here...

You:
A) Break up with your girlfriend to SAVE her feeling from being entirely crushed when she CATCHES you.
You telling her will feel 100x times better then her finding out (trust me I have been there!)

B) You talk to the ex and tell her you can't have sex anymore.
You keep it in your pants and learn some self control

C) There is no C, it's a pretty freakin' easy thing to do!

I didn't cheat on her on purpose or intentionally, its just happen OK, do not make it as if I'm cheating willingly. I do not know what's wrong with me but Its difficult to let go of my ex because she is always around

I want you to read the comments on this post here, that came from YOURSELF, less than a week ago:http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relatio...do-446795.html