My girlfriend of a year and a half dumped me out of nowhere 2 months ago. Directly after I experienced the most intense grief I had ever experienced in my life for about two weeks. It was worse than when I had a family member die, I mean this girl was my future, we had plans to move in together and travel the world when we graduated from college. Anyway, a week after valentines day, after she had written me this love note about how lucky she was to have me and how excited about are future she was, she tells me she needs a break to figure somethings out. he tells me she doesn't see us realistically traveling the world together and doing all these things we had planned. Now I'm no fool I know the word "break" actually means it's over. So I had intense grieving like I had never experienced for two weeks, then I went on a camping trip with her for a class we both were taking at the time. After that awkward experience it was over and I felt very relieved. I was able to move on with my life. However, now it has been about 6 weeks since I started feeling good, and she has crept back into my mind and has been in my dreams at night. I have not seen her or talked to her since the trip 6 weeks ago. Has anyone else had this experience? I have been fighting the urge to call her because I know what is chased will run. However it has been 2 months, so have the rules changed? Can I call her now without her feeling pushed? Should I even bother? This resurgence of her in my mind is really messing me up. Any help/advice is appreciated!

COOKIE MONSTER

Don't do it,she wanted the break so give it to her. forget about the dreams they mean nothing.just carry on the way you are with out her,you don't need her.your doing well at 2months to be feeling good don't take steps back,your going forwards so don't call her it'll only bring the hurt back and take you back to square 1

confusionmax

ur feeling this way because there is a certain void that cannot be filled. u miss her. but dont go back. dont call her, dont email her.. its hard i know.. but try to keep urself diverted. go out with ur friends. dont think about her or the dreams. ur mind is playing tricks on u. u want someone to fill that special place in ur heart and u just keep thinking about her. instead, try to forget about her. if she left.. let her go.. if she feels anything for u, she'll come back. trust me on that. girls are much more emotional. if we feel like talking to someone, we will.

talaniman

Click on the links in my signature, for some good insights. Between me and you, after many years of being broke up, my exes still come back and mess with my mind. You'll get use to it though, and not give it a lot of thought. She is still a very fresh memory in your mind, and your feelings, but that will fade with time, and as you make even more memories for yourself.

FeelingBlue

If she wanted you, she would contact you. Don't torture yourself.

log

hey i was in the same situation about 8-9months ago where my ex left me dry...u know its normal to think about your ex but we think about her as of what hasnt she called? or what she doing right now?and gives us a temptation to call them but a word of advise, dont call them if you think you are gonna get emotional by doing so dont even bother its just not worth it .eventually the thought will drift away ........good luck man