Well guys i am already feeling that i need to give an update and vent some more.

Well its been one week since we got back from Miami and we have not spoken a word!!! This week has been the hardest week of my life, i miss her terribly and what's jabbing away at my heart is that all indications now points to the fact that she was being that way she was because it looks like there is someone else in her life!!!

Why would she do that and hurt me for 6 month, i mean she has been cheated on and treated like **** why turn around and do it to someone else!!! i am so confused and hurt at the same time but i still hold wats left of my pride by not calling her!!!!!

talaniman

As I remember you were breaking up with her any way. So don't feel hurt about some other guy on the side and take this as a lesson learned. I've never understood how someone, after being treated bad, turns around and does the same to someone else. Go Figure!!!

Wildcat21

Dude - they will NEVER tell you there is another guy - ever. It's the top reason they break from you. They want to spare your feelings.

Hopefully you've learned a little bit about this gal....maybe she isn't so great after all??????????????

Good thing these other guys usually don't last.

Maybe it's time to take a good hard look at this gal....maybe she's done oyu a favor???

Remember - whe nthey breal with you - there usually is always another guy. Trust me.

My advice to you is date, date, date.....date some more.

Wildcat21

Tal - he didn't reall ywant to break her idea.

Dude - learn from this - be more caucious - don't put so much importance into women....until your married.

kadd0007

Thanks guys all the above advice is greatly appreciated!!!

Its just really too bad that i had to learn the hard way.....I guess to me its hard to understand why would anyone put another one's feeling through that kind of pain when they themselfs have felt how horrible it is, and on top of that how do they live with the guilt because i never would be able too!!!!!!

Wildcat21

NOW - do you understand WHY you don't pick up the phone when she calls???????

Wildcat21

Don't contact her for alone time if ever.....

Date, Date, Date

kadd0007

Trust me Wildcat, i atleast now have the power to actually ignore her lol, its hard as hell but now i know its doable.

And as for date date date i will be working on that very soon

Skell

It will be hard kadd. and it will most likely get harder for a while. But eventually it will get better.
If indications are pointing to another man then sadly you are most probably right.
But use that as a bit of anger and source of strength. use that to help you remember how she has used and mistreated you and that you are better off without her. Use that knowledge you have as a tool to ensure you dont let her back into your life to hurt you again.

we see it alot. Girl leaves guy for another bloke and realises the grass isnt greener on the other side so she tries to come back. And usually they let her come back in and she does it to him again.

Dont make these mistakes!

You now have to move forward. Work on YOU!

As i said though it will get harder. it is only a week. you are going to feel so many emotions over the next few months. but vent them here or with your mates. Dont go to her. you wontget the amswers you are after.

Good luck and stick around. I find this site such a great help emotionally!

s_cianci

Good. Continue not calling her. You may have to resign yourself to the fact that nothing's going to come of this. Don't waste time and energy trying to figure out why she does the things she does. It is impossible to deduce another person's motives and you certainly can't control their actions. As others have told you, now's the time to work on YOU ; that's the one thing you CAN control.