I have a couple questions. Not sure if you guys can help me really. I feel like it's something i just have to work on myself but, i'm not sure how, and no shame in asking.

I have a problem. I Over-analyze / Over-think a lot. Tooo much. The fact of the matter is, i always think the way my girlfriend is acting, or the mood she's in, has to do with me. That it is towards me.

I mean ... i know ... people can't be in the best mood every single day. People have off days, i understand that, but i have a problem of over thinking and over analyzing things, that make me think when she's down, upset, or having a bad day, it has to do with me. Even if i know for a fact, its school or something else thats stressing her out.

So i was wondering if i could get some advice. I really do want to work on this, i over dramatize things and jump the gun on things that sometimes, aren't meant towards me at all.

talaniman

Thats the way most of us feel. The lesson here is how much YOUR thinking and feelings, affects the perception of what's real, and whats not.

spion_kop

I can say that is my problem as well. Especially after my break up, I tended to over analyze everything. I was clutching onto straws for any signs that i could. I still over analyze but this time it's our relationship that we had and how blind i was at times.

It's good to analyze situations because that's the kind of person that i am. But you have to be in the right frame of mind to be able to conduct it properly.

talaniman

It helps to focus on the real facts, and not the facts as you see them.