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Sammie543210 · Mar 6, 2014, 10:39 AM

Hi everyone I need advice.

My ex fiancé walked out on me 4th Jan this year we spoke throughout and then finally kind of on 21st Jan and I broke down on phone to him and he just put mobile down on something and then walked away from it. I rang him back, eventually got through to him and apologized.

I did 30 + days no contact, and he messaged me, and my mum on Facebook, saying he wanted me to come online to talk. I made him wait 5 hours I then replied and he ignored it. I noticed 26th Feb. that he was online. I said hi and he said hi. We started talking and apologized to each other and I said I am really happy we are talking again and he said same. I asked him if he wanted to catch a film in the upcoming week and he said no, he was busy all week looking for his own flat and going blackpool at the weekend. So I said OK, no problem, and good luck with that he said thanks and disappeared. So I rang him and said thank you for the chat hope to do it again in the future and goodnight darling. He said night, and that was it. We are now 6/03/2014. I messaged him online yesturday but he ignored it and I sent a text today wishing his nephew a happy birthday but again no reply.

What do I do now? He said he doesn't hate me. When I asked about the girlfriend he is supposed to be going out with he said he isn't, it was her idea to wind up a friend of theirs. I love him and so want him back but I just don't know what do for the best.

Jake2008 · Mar 6, 2014, 02:26 PM

I'm glad that you can see that what you are doing, or hoping for, is getting him back.

It sounds, from what you have written, that he has moved on, and maybe he was testing the waters to see if the two of you could simply be civil to each other, with occasional 'hello's' on Facebook. Nothing more.

It is probably more likely than not, that he realizes that you want him back, and he, not wanting to give you false hope, is backing off more and more.

It's safe to say that you may need help in getting over this relationship, in order to move on with your life. It isn't easy, but consider getting counseling to help you cope with this loss. And it is a loss. Hopes and dreams go, right along with the end of the relationship.

Good luck to you.

talaniman · Mar 6, 2014, 04:15 PM

You go back to No Contact and don't let him take your dignity and self respect by chasing, wishing, and hoping, while he does his thing. He may not hate you but he darned sure hasn't done anything to make you think he wants YOU back, has he?

Homegirl 50 · Mar 11, 2014, 03:38 PM

This guy does not want you back and has not done anything to suggest that he does.
It is time for you to leave this alone, Go no contact again.