My Girlfriend of a year and a half.she wants a "break".

DazzaB · #1 Jul 30, 2007, 05:33 PM

Alright people. I'm feeling really down so I thought I'd come here to tell you my story and maybe get a bit of advice..

I've been going out with my girlfriend for a year and a half.. she's 15 and I'm 16. Our relationship had everything, we went to each other's house nearly every day, we went on trips together and we were very happy with each other, or so it seemed.

About 4 weeks ago (I was just about to go on holiday), she suggested going out casually (we still see each other but see other people too). I said no, definitely not as I couldn't share her with other people. So that was that, we were still together.. going out steady.

When I came home from holiday (2 weeks ago), everything was back to normal. We went to each others houses and stuff and we were just acting like we usually would. Then one day she brought it up again, only this time she suggested that we go on a "break". She told me the reason for this was that we can see other people for a while. She told me she's only 15 and wants to see other people at this age.

I'm very hurt by this. I can't take my mind off her.

I have also done something very stupid.. I don't text her or phone her but when she logs onto MSN, I chat away to her. I've told her she's my everything etc etc, and I know I shouldn't have done this as soon as I read some topics on this forum.

GlindaofOz · Jul 30, 2007, 05:35 PM

Let her have her space. the more you push her the more likely she is to think that you really are not the right guy for her right now. She's probably just thinking that she's only 15 and doesn't need to be in a serious relationship.

You should respect her feelings and if she decides to break up let it happen and find another nice girl to date.

DazzaB · Jul 30, 2007, 05:38 PM

I know. She told me that she doesn't want a serious relationship at 15 years old but if we go on a long break, she will realise what she's missing...

GlindaofOz · Jul 30, 2007, 05:39 PM

Not if you keep chatting with her........

And honestly she may decide that she's not missing much. You need to be prepared for both outcomes.

DazzaB · Jul 30, 2007, 05:42 PM

That's why I'm going to try my best not to talk to her. It's going to be very difficult, but I'm going to do it.

I know. I love her very much however and I can't imagine my life without her. We have spent every day since we started going out with each other.

GlindaofOz · Jul 30, 2007, 05:55 PM

Just remember that its for the best.

nicespringgirl · Jul 30, 2007, 05:56 PM

There is one thing you will learn through you life-taking your time and waiting.
You two are still young, let her see more in her life and give her a chance, also give you a chance to see more.
Don't be blinded by love, don't rush things. Just give her some time, wait a lil bit.
Your personal growth is more important at this point, so either she comes back after a while or leaves you, it's all part of life, you will grow stonger.

Canada_Sweety · Jul 30, 2007, 06:02 PM

Just let the break take it's course. Take some time for yourself and enjoy it.

DazzaB · Jul 30, 2007, 06:06 PM

I will try to enjoy it. The most difficult thing is at night, when I think about how much I love her, I can't sleep. I know this girl is the one for me, even though I am only 16.

I do think she'll see what she is missing. It might take her a month or two, but she will see what she is missing.



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