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My ex and I have not spoken since the split. We have a son together, were both 25. I have to goto a case conference today to see her. I have had NC since the split and I do not really want to see her. I dont even want to look at her. All of my girlfriends tell me just act like nothing bothers me and that wil get to her. Help lol. I really dont want to have to see her.
OMG! Ok, first of all....when you see her, be nice but not overly so -- maintain a sense of professionalism since it's a case. Smile, say hello. Act like you got your sh*t together. Don't let her get to you!
ITS A CASE CONFERENCE FOR CUSTODY.. eVERY ONE JUST KEEPS TELLING ME DONT LOOK AT HER OR NOTHING.
Well, I don't know your story... but I think that's a little harsh. You don't want her to think your bitter or angry with the decision. Just smile politely, say hi, be professional not overly friendly.
Don't play games...Do what you need to do inorder to be the best parent for your child. You have to talk to the mom regarding the child so look at her and act like a mature adult. Your child matters more than the problems you two have. The best gift you can give your child is to be respectful to his mom. You are the man that will show your son how to treat women and people by your actions. Do you want him to look down or ignore people just because he is umcomfortable with a situation? Remember they are always watching us, even when they are small.
Be willing to compromise.Be sooo mature and confident. The caseworker is looking to see who is most stable to leave a child with, no anger, no accusations, no grievances. The courts want to see...'we are all adults here, working together to best raise our child' Nooo, I am not angry at the cheater, yesss, I can work with her to make arrangements that we can have calm visits and exchanges. Best of Luck
Well I seen my ex today in the case conference. She seem'd like she didnt care as it should be since she left. But after everything was said and done I walked outside with my mother present and my lawyer and the 3 of us were having a laugh about something that was said and as I was smiling " I also got some of what I wanted in the court; so i was happy" And with a big smile on my face from the 3 of us talking I turned around and my ex was at the entrance still just staring at me walk away and me with a big smile. It was so cereal. I like to analyze things and I mabe looking to far into it but something about it was her watching me walk out of her life and her finally realizing it. . It was just wierd how it happen and how it seem;d what she was thinking. Was almost like she realizd I wont be her backup plan.. She started this whole mess in the end of July and I have not spoken or even tried to speak to her since what she has done to me. But the feeling I got when she was staring at me was worth a million words. She might think she is happy but i think she might be starting to realize what she has done.. It wasnt a angry look although it could of been but I know her well and it didnt seem like it... I dont know.. but the look she gave me was a look like " where did we go wrong" "how did it come to this" "how are you walking away from me and not caring" " he is leaving me forever" that is the kind of look I got from her. I dont know mabe it is just me. Im on the healing process so more time and more time..
So you guys think that was a heart stabber for her to see me happy and smiles, when I turned around. It wasnt like i new she was standing there, it was like a movie lol. And the rest of the night I just pondered what she was thinking when that happen
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