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Old Apr 15, 2008, 02:04 AM
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I'm a man, in love with another man.

Hi,
I am a man, 27 y old.
I have a master degree, working in some company that opened soon in my region.
First time I applyied, I met that guy who was coming from US, he was looking 28 y old, blue eyes, hairy and proportional body, white bloody face, beautiful hair.
Later, I got interviewed by him, I found out he was the president of the company. During the meeting he was understanding my body language. I thought he was gay!
I was told he's a hight level person, super genius, generous.
Later, I found out he has 43 y old, I got entirely shocked, he doesn't give that age at all.
The worst to know, he is married, and has 5 kids, his family still in US, maybe divorced.
When I look in his eyes, I get drifted, deep inside them.
I can notice how girls are very attracted to him, getting into his fancy car, hanging out with him.
I was reviewing some papers with him at a late time in night, I layed my head on his shoulder. Eversince I found myself in love with him, thinking of him all the times.
I couldn't define that love.
One day, we met in the company at night, I was glad, he was very depressed, he told me he is getting betrayed by his girlfriend. I thought he was gay! he is not.
I don' wanna be gay, but I have these weird feelings to him.
Eversince we meet at night, he speaks out his relational problems. He told me he is very sexually active, and can't spend time without a girl.
I began to dream I'm making love with him, everytime he tells me one of his don-juan stories.
He realises how much I love him.
Lately, he sleeps in his office, on his leather fancy red coach. I sit next to him, he tells me many stories, he was extreamly wealthy, flying always in first class and reserving in 7 stars hotels. He is a very successful business man. He has the most beautiful expressing eyes I ever saw. very pure heart, sometimes he got naiif, but very smart, like a little baby at night and rocky man in the day.
Sometimes he let me sleep in his office next his coach, on the ground. One night, I put my head on his chest while he was sleeping. I love smelling him, smelling his breath, his body warmness. I love his hair in his body. He tells me how girls can't sleep thinking of him, but he only loves one girl, the one who betrayed him, but still in love with him.
Now, I'm very in love with him, he calls me his little brother, I can't get away 2 days without seeing him. I know he's getting back to US very soon, with his new bride. Feeling strangled to know this.
Totally lost.

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Old Apr 15, 2008, 03:33 AM   #2  
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Stop smelling him and touching this man when he is sleep, what is wrong with you. You are literally violation his person space. If you tried that with me and I fought I we would have to fight.

“I don' wanna be gay, but I have these weird feelings to him.”

The first thing you need to ask yourself is: I am homosexual? It seems to me there is a lot of confusing going on here. Only you can determine this.

Once you decide that you are homosexual let me make a suggestion. Only date other men that are homosexual and out of the closet.

There is nothing in your post that would even suggest that man is gay. He told you can’t spend with out women (girls)

So what are you even trying to get involved with a straight married man with 5 kids?

Even if this man was in the closet, again why would you attempt to have a long distance in the closet relationship? He is heading back to the United States.

Leave this man alone for your physical and emotional well being.

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Old Apr 15, 2008, 03:39 AM   #3  
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Marriedguy, I agree with part of what you say, but there are two sides to this story and one you are completely ignoring. This 'wealthy fellow' has encouraged these feelings in another man is what i read into that post. I am afraid someone will be hurt by this flirting attitude.

And for you chubi, I would just forget about him, nothing good will come of this, he is just toying with you, IMO.

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Old Apr 15, 2008, 04:34 AM   #4  
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When I get close to him, he stands still, doesn't react, but very likely he's content seeing me smelling him and touching him. I touch him claiming I'm discovering his hair, face, sometimes I take photos of him. I act like a little kid when I'm with him. It is really hurting me learning the truth, that I shall get away from him. Why he keeps me close, and let me sleep in his office sometimes? I believe he is seeking always company, whenever no girlfriend is available he calls out for me.
I realize that I should not go gay, near to him, I admire his lips, face everything in him.
I was reading about chemistry between people, does it exist between people of the same genre?
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Old Apr 15, 2008, 06:48 AM   #5  
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i think you try to keep your distance from this guy or you will end uo getting hurt. i also see inyour post where the guy is kinda allowing you to be near him an im sure he has an idea of your feelings for him but you need to back away. theres plenty of handsome blue eyed guys out there that are gay who would love to you.
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Old Apr 15, 2008, 07:57 AM   #6  
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@ Tickle I think the harshness was necessary. I just assumed that he did not have consent, yet he decided that he could come into this man's personal space.

Now regardless of the sexual preference of both parties this act is inappropriate.

Manage of an office (female) and her assistance (male) stay late to finish a record due tomorrow. It gets late and they decide instead of driving tired its better to just sleep at the office and go home in the morning.

The manager is sleeping on the couch in the breakroom and her assistance decides this is an opportunity to act on what he believes is flirting and puts his head on his boss’s chest.

You don’t have a problem with that?

I don't believe that this man is encouraging this the post he explain the situation from his point of view. He never confirmed that his boss is gay, he never comfirmed his boss was even interested in him.

Look at the second post..."its very likely" "I touch him claiming I'm discovering"
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Old Apr 15, 2008, 08:38 AM   #7  
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Is this post for real? Im touching him im Claiming him. i admire his lips his hair, its sounds like something out of a bad romance book well if it is true, then

im sorry my friend you feel like this, but he is taken and its sad.
I think you are very forward with this guy and he is probable just being nice, but you will get hurt if you follow on with this.


smelling and touching, kind of a personal space issue. if he finds out and hits you then whats going to happen youll lose your job and everything...

be smart keep your distance and
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You have taken a perfectly natural attraction, and built a whole fantasy world, the dangerous part is acting on it. That would not be healthy. Enjoy your fantasy, but keep your boundaries. He is off limits, in the real world.

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During the meeting he was understanding my body language. I thought he was gay!
What makes you think understanding body language, is a gay thing? Keep your hands, and everything else to yourself! For your own good.
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I don' wanna be gay, but I have these weird feelings to him.
Are you?
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