Gf broke up with me needing break.. shes EVERYTHING to me.... i tried to forget her and move on.. i cant...its too hard... i cry everynight dont know what to do anymore... the pain is just too much... i tried sleeping at friends house (taking me mind of things).. talking to other girls... i have no idea what else to do.... i cant live without her... i grew up with a VERY hard and BAD childhood... i had NO one my whole life until she came.. now shes gone .. and i cant even think what to do now... Ive been thinking about killing myself so many times and just ending it i have no one to go too.. no one to listen to me but her... pain gets worst and worst everyday... im a lost dog without a master...

BMI

I Think you need to step back a bit and get hold of yourself first off. I know its a hard to go through what your going through but you sound like a broken man ready to give up. We have all had this happen to us and we have all hurt and wished to God for it to stop,, but it won't, its something we have to face, a broken heart. Find yourself and come to the real;ization that things can be worse and you will move on without her.

I do beleive that right after a breakup you have the opportunity to learn alot about yourself, to gather up your feelings and begin correcting what needs fixing, if you choose to wallow in self-pity than this opportunity is lost and you will only get further depressed and things will seemthat more bleak. You are worth something, to her, toothers, so don't say you have noone, thats just the pain coming through, nothing else. I say you should get in touch with your feelings and sit down and analyze how you feel, talk it out when you are in control, not when you are hurting this bad. Than you will see the forest from the trees.

Bestof luck.

2FUN4ME

There is a wonderful book available that helped be get through my marriage break-up. It is called Erogenous Zones. It is not sexual even though the title implies differently. It major objective is to help you concentrate on your self and how regardless of how you feel at the moment, it is not that person that is causing those feelings, it is you. You are in charge of how you are affected by others. In otherwords, you cannot control what someone says, but you can control how you react to it. This book got me to the point of facing off with my husband and announcing to him that I did not require him to make me happy. I was in charge of my own feelings. Funny thing happened, he started changing his mind about leaving me when I stopped whinning and crying about how hurt I was. Even funnier... I decided I was strong enough, that I did not need him in my life and was capible of makeing myself satisfied with life. I will not lean on others as a crutch. Only I can make myself happy and only I can make myself miserable. Read the book, it will change your life.

SAB123

My friend, my ex fiance broke up with me 9 months ago of almost 5 years. I know the pain you are feeling. Trust me when I say this time does heal. Let your emotions take it's course. It took me about 3 months for the pain in my heart to start fading away. But even 6 months into break up the hurt was gone but I still missed her. I am 9 months into it and although I still think of her alittle bit But now I'm happy without her now. And I also felt I couldn't live without her. So just let time take it's course and you will be happy again without her.

Jiser

Hey, nah what your saying is all wrong. Life goes on my friend. You can live through this painful time no prob! How about the people who are fighting in Iraq right now? Being blown up, shot at, familys being destroyed in the blink of an eye?

Most people on this planet have been through heart ache. Guess what it didn't kill them, it made them stronger and more aware what they wanted for the future. Its time to concentrate on you and your life. If your unhappy with what you have. You can change it, your the only one who really can.

Instead of moping around, go out there and get the job you allways wanted, join a club, go to the gym, change your life around because no one else will do it for you.

Please abide by No contact as well and in time life will get easier.

bluerose

QuikFeedmeplz,

I hope you are reading the posts above. They say it all. Life isn't easy but you musn't let it beat you down.

GeniusfromGeniusHell

Telling you that it will pass is not helping, I know. It never does. It's like telling you that your new shoes will stop being uncomfortable at some point: it doesn't change anything.

It's the first time this has happened to you, yes? I am guessing this because when you allow a person to mean "everything", then you risk losing everything. Seldom do we make this mistake twice. She is NOT everything. YOU are everything.

My only advice is not to do anything rash while you are suffering. Yes, you'll suffer a bit. Don't compound your pain by groveling or chasing her; this will only make you ashamed of yourself when it doesn't work, and it won't.

This is the Big One we all go through at some point. Be strong, trooper.

MissingHim2Much

You are not alone here. I too thought my ex was everything. I wanted to die when he left me for another woman. The pain was so bad I can only discribe it as grieving a death. I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep I was devestated. I truely wanted to die. Except I knew that wasn't an option. I have 2 wonderful sons and a beautiful granddaughter so leaving them just couldn't happen. I found this website and everyone said it would get better in time. I thought if they only knew how much pain I was in they wouldn't say that to me. But I found out they do know how much pain I was in. I soon found out that most of them too had been in the midst of heartbreak at one time or another. And the people that I thought were crazy for telling me it would get better, they were actually right and now 3 months have pasted since he left and I don't want to die anymore. To tell the truth I'm starting to wonder why I thought he was everything in the first place.

MissingHim2Much

Actually I did think all of you were crazy. I just knew you couldn't even begin to know how much pain I was in and if you only knew how I really felt you would all know it wasn't going to be possible for me to ever get over it and feel better. Back then I thought I was the only one to ever feel heartbreak like this. LOT LOT I KNEW. LOL

trishatony

As you can see you are clearly not the only one who has been through the hell of a break up, but my first suggestion is to take a look at yourself because from what I am reading I get that you did not have a life before her and you just think that she is your life and once you come to terms with the person that you are, then you will be able to love someone else. Never let someone else hold your life in there hands it is not fair to her or to you. Get better acquainted with yourself.