I ignored his calls. He sent me roses

See GlindaofOz that's the kind of expert advice I came here for. Not the crude comments of a jaded person that only seems to be here to make people in pain feel bad about themselfs Thank You!

No problem. Glad to help.

My take on it is this: IF you all were soulmates, it would be done in a conversation. A request to talk. A connection that was adult-like and meaningful. The flowers are super-cool and very romantic - but he's NOT THERE....sort of metaphorical huh?

You are empty-handed.

So, if you were to say yes, how long would it take you to forgive him?
Could you?
Is him running off with someone else really worth it to you still?
If so, maybe a conversation is in order. Or at least a letter from him.

But roses, smell good for a week and then they...die.

Is there life left in you?
If so, and you can forgive, see what he'll do next. He will do something.
If not, a polite: "it's too late for roses" is probably in order.

Sounds like you still love him in some way, but pretty disenchanted. And rightfully so!
I know this is all real tough.


Hang in there!

What comes around goes around comes around goes around..
I'm waiting for the same thin gto happen to my ex, hope he gets dumped!

Good for you DJ for sticking to no contact..

A friend of mine was in a similar sitution recently after 6 year relationship, he began sleeping around and suddenly when she quit the contact he started saying he wanted to marry her.In fact she got an investigator and it turned out he was still sleeping around with a different girl every night...

She continued with no contact and blocked his phone calls , changed email , moved country..

So please keep no contact...he will repeat the same.

You need time to heal, he needs time to repair himself.

If he sent roses, he ain't done.

Sit back and really weigh this, now that you are in the driver's seat.
If I dumped a girl and I wanted her back for life I would do more than roses....

In my experience, all ex's come back if you treated them well and did a few "other things"
This is 100% predictable. The issue is YOU now....Can you love and trust him? I'd take many months to sort that one out.

Most exs cirlce back there was only a matter of time till he came to his senses. Obviously you are a wonderful irl who treated him well and he has taken you for granted. This happens when a guy is in a great relationship and no doubt he loved you but because he was so confortable he falls into the thoughts of well I might give that a go as well. He then realises what he has given up because he no longer has it. Most humans are the same and this is the reason exs return, they did not leave a relationship they were unhappy with they left one because they were comfortable. Instead of using his brain and telling himself I have a great relationship I have been in for a while, of ourse the excitement is not going to be as high as when you guys first met but he needs to understand he has a great relatioinship. Problem is to many people don't think realistically and they think excitement and new HELL everyone likes to test drive a new car but if you already havea grat one why not stop for a sec and ralisie what you are driving before you jump behind the wheel of a new one and then realise it drives pretty much the same as the old one and then aftera few test drives it lso starts to have a few fsulta and then you realise the old car with the added extras is all that you needed to be happy so you run back to the old car and realise the doors ate locked and sometimes it has a new owner. You try to get it back but its not happy you abandoned it for another. So then you want it back even more, you call the locksmith you read the manual anything to get the car back!

He obviously realised the new one was no different but exciting to begin with but in life you want a lasting one and I suppose that's where he realises like many exs do once the excitement dies down they want to return to comfortable because they wernt thinking with there head they were just thinking theyy want something new.....

Its the ones who can think beyond this ppoint and have great values and beliefs who know what they have in the first place who hold onto what they have to begin with...

I know he wants you back there is no doubt of this and let me tell you the roses are not the enfof this he will try more and more and in the end you will give it another go. Probably. 5 years is a longtime you say well he didn't think it was worth it when he left did he?

Your problem is at the moment you are feeling alone and ot as happy as you were when you were in the relationship but now you are on your own the world is looking differently you are thinking maybe I can just go back to what I new before. Maybe you can but will you be happy, what if you found someone else who would stick by you forever wouldn't that be a great life wouldn't hat be someone you can grow with someone you can trust someone you can grow old with and not resent for what they have done.

Its your choice and you may try I'm again, it may work I may not. I know one thing if you went out tomorrow and met an amazing guy and started seeing him you would wonder why you even thougt about letting the ex back but we all know it isn't that easy but its a lot easier to just go back to the reliable one....

All I have to say about that is: HOLEY CRAP!

Very excellent advice Ash. I agree 100%

First of all, good job with not answering his calls, that must have been tough...... I think there's 2 ways to look at this.... One, he's being honest and truly loves you and maybe he relized how much he wants you in his life and he made a mistake, or Two, things with the "slut" didn't work out or wasn't as good as he thought it would be and is trying to crawl back until the next "slut" comes alone, either way you should really think about what you want and if your willing to trust him again.