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CoolDude48323 · Sep 13, 2009, 10:12 AM

This is not my situation. I was just curious as I like to bring up interesting topics...

If your girlfriend lets her Sister(a married Woman) and her friend(a recently divorced man) have sex in her home knowingly, and helps her Sister lie to her husband about her whereabouts, would you say that would necessarily mean that your girlfriend would be doing the same? Could you trust your girlfriend if you knew she was doing this?

Again, this is not my situation, but I have seen this I don't know HOW many times with different friends of mine within the last year

I would LOVE to hear some of your input

I wish · Sep 13, 2009, 10:33 AM

Because it's none of her business, she can't blow out her sister's secret. So she's kind of forced to keep the secret. Don't forget, her sister's trust in her is also on the line.

However, that being said, it does raise a huge red flag if she accepts her sister's action, instead of expressing some remorse/concerns.

redhed35 · Sep 13, 2009, 10:53 AM

Is this more of a member discussion then a question?

none12345 · Sep 13, 2009, 11:15 AM

I believe it is highly likely that she has her sister covering for her as well.

roxypox · Sep 13, 2009, 11:26 AM

I think its important to distinguish between two separate situations:

1. She is 'forced' to keep her sisters secret, or feel oblige to keep her secret... this doesn't mean that she accepts or condones her sisters actions.

2. She feels obliged to keep the secret, but doesn't think what her sister is doing is wrong.

With the 1. it seems unlikely that she'd cheat herself.

The second does raise a red flag... but again, it still isn't a 100% certain that she'd do the same thing if she found her self in a situation where she could cheat (i.e. someone of interest who shows her interest)

There is a 3 perspective that comes to mind... if she shows understanding for her sisters action, that understanding might drive from sympathy of some sort for her sisters situation.. i.e. say that the sister is having a hard time with her hubby and she can sympathies with that...

PS: hehe I'm not pro adultery... ;) just for the record.

jmjoseph · Sep 13, 2009, 11:37 AM

She allows people a love nest for adulterous affairs.

Yes, I would question her own fidelity to her mate.

Marriage is not sacred to her, obviously.

I don't see how she can allow it to happen in her own home.

It's one thing keeping her sister's secret, but she is actually "involved" in this affair.

She could possibly just be returning the favor to her sister and her "friend".

amicon · Sep 13, 2009, 11:52 AM

Adultery s just not on in my book so-yes-dodgy I d say.

Fr_Chuck · Sep 13, 2009, 12:40 PM

It sounds like she sees no issue in it, but then what is the issues in sisters life and the such.

And this is why open communication is needed, if she wants a open relationship, where each side is free to see others, then that should be stated up front and both sides have to be OK with it