If she feels like I'm moving on by doing no contact, which I've been doing - and then she feels like she should move on as well because I'm not reaching out to her - I don't want to be the "one that got away". What to do?

yathink103

Simple, ASK?

mckenzie134

"I feel like this is the best thing for us right now. Daniel and I had some problems in our relationship and I honestly just could not see us moving forward together. It was a really hard decision to make and I truly feel like I lost my best friend, but at the same time I feel a sense of freedom now. Daniel was such a big part of my life. He was all I knew. I am going through a huge transition now that I am done with school. I am trying to figure out what I want to do and who I want to be and I just feel like I need to do that for me before I can settle down with someone else. Daniel has 14 years of life experience that I don't have which I think he forgot sometimes. I just feel like I need some me time. In college I had a plan and now that I am out of college and things aren't going quite as planned I feel a little lost. I told Daniel I needed space, and it was really hard for him to hear. I care about him so much and I never meant to hurt him. I do need time to be my own person though."



tHIS IS WHAT I GOT FROM AN OLD POST OF YOURS...

My gf said exactly the same thing two months ago. Honestly exact!!!! Im 6 vyears older than her and she said i had more life experiences than her she is in her last year of a five year course and wants to work out where she is headed in life. Let me tell you this may sound like she is talking to you but what she is really saying is this

I DONT FEEL THE SAME WAY ABOUT YOU AS I USED TO BECAUSE I USED TO MISS YOU HEAPS WHEN WE WERE TOGETHER FOR THE FIRST YEAR BUT NOW I LOVE YOU AND CARE FOR YOU CAUSE YOUR SUCH A BIG PART OF MY LIFE BUT IT IS NOT A PASSIONATE LOVE LIKE IT USED TO BE SHE LOVES YOU MORE LIKE A FAMILY MEMBER!!! SOMEONE WHO SHE CAN TALK AND RELY ON NOT LOVE YOU LIKE SHE WANTS YOU TO RIP HER PANTS DOWN AND GIVE HER A LESSON!!!!!

IF YOU DOINT LEAVCE AND CUT OFF ALL CONTACT WITH HER RIGHT NOW YOU WILL NEVER GET HER PANTS AROUND HER ANKLES AGAIN!!!! AND FURTHER MORE YOU WILL BE OPN THIS SITE IN A FEW MONTHS AND YOUR POST WILL READ SOMETHING LIKE THIS!!!

My ex and i were on a break but now shes met this guy she tells me its nothing serious and she still loves me but just needs time to work things out. She always sends me messages saying how much she misses me (MIND YOU THAT IS WHILE SHE IS NOT RIDING HIS SLONG CAUSE THE NEW GUY IS BUSY) anyway back to it. The new guy she has met she says he doesnt treat her anywhere near as good as i treated her and she still always rings me what does this mean??? I know she still loves me but im not sure what to do now!!!!


Well this is what will happen nshe will get a new guy and you will be the buddy!!!! Get out Now and give yourself every possible chance!!!! It took me two months to finally leave my ex alone!!!! You have told us she has not got many friends, dont you see while you are around she wont miss you she is relying on you for support and friendship till the new bloke sweeps her off her feet!!!! DTHIS IS NO LONGER A GAME I AM TALKING ABOUT>THIS IS LIFE AND IF YOU WANT TO WALK AWAY WITH THE GIRL< PLEASE DISAPEAR AND IF SHE DOES NOT WANT YOU WELL SHE NEVER REALLY DID.

All i am seeing from her end is that she wants to be friends and see other people. When you first met she would never had mentioned seeingh other people cause she was to keen on you.

What i have told you today will be of benefit to you and i know you are saying ive tried no contact. Well its about time you tried this simple few words when she rings.

IVE HAD ENOUGH OF THIS IM THE TYPE OF PERSON WHO LIKES TO HAVE A GOOD TIME AND IM GOING TO DATE SOME OTHER PEOPLE AND MEET SOMEONE WHO IS MORE SURE OF WHAT THEY WANT, I HAVE GIVEN YOU SOME CHANCES BUT YOUR TO UNSURE FOR ME!!!!!!! ANYWAY HAVE FUN BYE .

That is what you say and hang up and tuirn your phone off!! GIVE IT TIME DONT BACK DOWN. The firmer your decision the more she will come for you and hopefully tell you ive decided i am ready and then you can be with her!!!!!!!!

Jiser

lol! Just go get yourself some sort of reality check. Ok she wants you but doesn't. Well have more of a life then and in time you will become indifferent. Just don't hold up on just her.

Righthearted

I've done what you're saying.
She knows that I don't want her to date anyone else and if she does I'm long gone. That's why we talked for 2 hours.

mckenzie134

You said you have done what im saying!!! Noyour not you spoke toherfor two hours. STOP DOING THAT STOP STOP STOP!!!!

SHE KNOWS YOU DONT WANTHER TO DATE ANTONE ELSE THATS GOT NOTHING TO DO WITHYOU < YOU MAKE IT SOUND LIKE YOU ARE HAVING THE CHOICES YOU HAVENT!!!!!

You need to not tell her anything dont tell her what to do tell er absolutely nothing, why are you still talking to her!!!

Disapear my friendcome on here and chat but ive her a spell you cant work anything outby talking about it you needto be gone!!!

I know you say you havedonethat but you didnt do it for long or good enough.

You MUST not talk and answer nextthree times she calls and then on the next time IF SHE CALLS you answer and saywhatdo you want stop calling me you said you wanted it to be over so thats it!!!!! You made your decison....

THIS ISWHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE SHE ISSTILL DRAGING YOU BY HE BALLS GIVINGYOU FALSEHOPE ON THE RELATIONSHIP YOUHAVE NO CHANCEAT THE MOMENT 0% of getting her back......

I believe youstill have a good chanceof getting her back hereif you handle ittherightway.

YOou said she knows i dont want her to date orim long gone!!!\\\\


JEEZ YOU SHOULD BE LONG GONE NO MATTER WHAT SHE IS DOING WHYARE YOU WAITING AROUND DO YOU REALLY BELIEVE SHE IS MAKING A DECISION

I ILLTELLYOU RIGHT NOW YOU WILL BE LONGGONE SOON WHEN SHE FINDS HER NEXT BLOKE!!!!!!

ELL BE LONG GONE NOW GOD DAM IT WAKE UP YOU SAID YOU WILL BE LONG GONE WHEN SHE DATES BE BLOODY LONG GONE NOW AND GIVE YOURSELF A CHANCE!!!!!

Let me know what yourdecision is have you had anymore phone cobnversations and what hasshe said?????

Hope you know I am helping you sorry if sounds a bit rude but i am here to talk too...GOOD LUCK.

Righthearted

I know what you're saying - easier said than done. It's easy to make those recommendations but relationships are a lot more complex than that.

From our conversation the other night -
I told her that if she's looking to date other people that I'm not here for that, I want us to try again and go slowly. Then I turned it around on her and asked her how she would feel if I dated someone and she said that she didn't know and that she might go psycho-ex-girlfriend mode. She's the one that seems to be pushing to be with me - why would I push her away? Like I said she called me 6 times the other day and left me 2 messages.

talaniman

Let us know when she is all the way back. Good Luck.

mckenzie134

Hay rightheart I hopoe your doing well and i hope the girl is on the way back, I mean you better let us know when you get her fully back. Is there any update yet is she keen.
Hope your getting back in there, we are praying for you.

Righthearted

UPDATE - we had dinner the other night and after we kissed a lot. last night we hung out a little and we kissed again. this morning she called me and possibly wants to get together tonight for drink(s). i hope it's not to break my heart again...

Righthearted

Another update -
She slept over last Saturday and everything was cool, then on Tuesday we had dinner at my place and kissed and cuddled some more. The entire time we haven't seriously talked about our relationship but she has told me that she is still looking to date, meanwhile we make out and kiss like we are still together.

Now it's Thursday and I find out she has a date for tomorrow. What the heck is going on?