If she feels like I'm moving on by doing no contact, which I've been doing - and then she feels like she should move on as well because I'm not reaching out to her - I don't want to be the "one that got away". What to do?

MissMod2006

Start talking to her??

sypher373

If she broke up with you, and your giving her space - if she decides that she wants to be back together, she will let you know. I'm sure that if she realized it was a mistake, or wanted to be back together, she would let you know....

Put yourself in her position: If you dumped someone, then a few months later you realized it was a mistake, would you just assume that she is moved on and let her go? No, you would make sure she knows how you feel, then you would be at the mercy of her decision. Dont worry about what isnt happening now, if it does happen youll know

kkentucky

Has she given you any indication she wants to get back together?

Righthearted

She called me upset and wanting to hear my voice a week ago (she was missing me), then she emailed me the night after asking me if it was alright that she did. THEN she went out of her way to run into me at a gas station this last week and gave me a hug.
Now I find out she's babysitting for some friends of mine in a couple of weeks.

Jiser

Light contact! However it is healthier to get over each other first before reconciliation. Best to enjoy life being single for a while. Learn from the past and use that experiance. If an ex wanted you back I am sure they would let you know. Let them do the chasing, they broke up with you!! If they don't come back then there will be someone else in time/...

Righthearted

Will they chase if they think I've moved on - which i obviously haven't. I feel like i don't want her to forget about me.

Righthearted

Here's what I do know - after she broke up with me.
- about 10 days later she called me crying, had a bad day and really needed to hear my voice
- sent me an email the day after she called me asking me if it was alright that she called
- last week we ran into each other at the gas station where she asked for a hug of course i gve her one
- she's babysitting for some friends of mine in a couple of weeks

is she really moving on what is going on? do i stop no contact and call her or text her?

talaniman

Just because you have started a new thread doesn't mean you'll get different answers. Reread your other posts and you'll see that this question has been answered. Have you noticed that everytime you see her, or she calls you get more confused? Sooner or later you will realise you will never have what you had with her, and the best thing to do is accept this is over, she wants you as a friend to make her feel better, nothing more. Now move on. STOP THE MADNESS!! That would be better for you both.

Righthearted

I understand that - but can you explain this one?

I text messaged her the other night - just saying that I was thinking about and wanted to say hi, and she called me the following morning to tell me that she got my message and didn't call me sooner because she was flying home. Why did she call me back? and so quickly?