If she feels like I'm moving on by doing no contact, which I've been doing - and then she feels like she should move on as well because I'm not reaching out to her - I don't want to be the "one that got away". What to do?

talaniman

She has to keep you as a friend. You will get just enough to keep you wondering, but not enough to push you away. Stop calling and then stop taking her calls, and you will see something that you need to see.

Righthearted

Well she's called me 3 times today, didn't leave any messages - now what?

talaniman

Must be extremely important since she didn't leave a message. What do you think? Call her later and find out. Your really curious, and so are we.

Righthearted

So we talked for about 2 hours and she says she's not ready for a relationship. And I agreed that we would need to take things really slowly. She wants to get together and do things but can't really committ, she asked me if it was okay if she went out with other people and I said that it was a deal breaker. I asked her how she would feel if I went out with other girls and she didn't know -thought she might go psycho-ex girlfriend mode. I feel like we made some progess and we really communicated the things that were important to us in our relationship. I think we're going to get together at the end of the week - something casual. Who knows what'll happen - I really got that she was confused and scared about a lot of things. Hopefully we'll make it work.

mckenzie134

STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP!!!!!!!! THIS IS NOT WORKING MORON!!!!!!! (sorry)

What you are doing is not working dont do what you have been doing all you are doing is justing hanging on a lifeline which she has got dangling. I did this WILL NOT WORK NOT NOT!!!!


I can tell from your thread you told her well we will have to take it really slowly. The only reason you said that is cause you are thinking well i can tell her and she will agree and take it slow and you will be together!!!! NO F ING WAY THIS WILL HAPPEN!!! and if it did youll be out again.

She wanted a break, DO NOT LET HER CRY ON YOU!!!! Your movin on you have to show her you DONT have time for crap you dont want a girl who doesnt know what she wants!!!

You have to be the best!! The best is NOT waiting THE BEST is busy!! The BEST has options if shes unsure theres plenty out there who are sure!!!!!

Even though at the moment you want her and really you are a wussie well you have to pretend your not.

This is what you do!!! STARTING NOW!!!!!

You do not answer for 1 week at all no text nil. You also have your phone switched off every second night. Thats right OFF OFF OFF!! You be unavailable even though you are probly lying in bed crying, you must show u are busy so she will wonder and cant tal;k to you. The less she can talk to you the more she will want too.

Do this for a week and see how it goes. Or else try ur s h i t way and keep hanging on and you know what she will say

"IM JUST NOT READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP AT THE MOMENT" I JUST WANT TO WORK ON MYSELF FOR A WHILE....... Then your out

Let me know how you go!!!!!

mckenzie134

Also i hust rered what you just said in that last post!!!!!

I DONT BELIEVE I MISSED IT!!!!!

She said shes not READY for a relationship!!! and you said I agree we need to take it slow!!!! YOU didnt hear what she said she said not ready and you said TAKE IT SLOW!!! TAKE WHAT SLOW THE DOG FOR A WALK! WAKE UP!!!
Then i go on and see she wants to know if she can see other people!!!! The only reason she wants to see other people is she DONT want you at the moment, cause your hanging around!!!!!

Then you ask her what about you seeing other people WHAT SHI T IS THAT!!!! She wanted a break of cause your seeing other people your the great bloke your not waiting for anyone!!!!!!

You dont need to ask her you tell her this!!!!! LISTEN RIGHT NOW!!!

Whaen she says cxan I see other people you say yeah Im going to the movies with this girl i met out last friday Night!!!!! Thats right you reply with yes go and see other people yourve got a date friday NIght!!!!!!!! Dont be SCARED of losing her!!!

She hasnt got a date she will be f ing freaking all night friday thiunking how your date is going and you know what on that friday your phone is switched off and not back on till the next night. You rve gootta let her know you might have found someone who knows what she wants!!!!!

DO THIS BNEXT TIM DO THIS IF YOU MUST SPEAK TO HER LET HER KNOW YOURVE GOT A BIG DATE LINED UP!! PEOPLE CANT ENJOY THEMSELVES IF THERE EX IS ON A DATE .

You are thinking if i tell her im on a date then she will go on a date and find someone!! BULL she will be that worried yes WORRIED about your date even if she is on one this bloke wont be her type at all she will be thinking of you!!!!


DO IT IF YOU HAVE TO TALK ON PHONE DONT PLAY AROUND ANYMORE THIS WILL WORK!!! YOUR CHOICE, your other way is just going to make her comfortable and she will find another bloke who will be a jerk and tell he stop talking to the ex and she will!!

BE THE MAN TONIGHT!!!!

Righthearted

I did what you're talking about, didn't talk to her for a week (a couple at that). She called me 6x today and left me 2 messages and drove by my house to share some dinner with me. I wasn't home so she didn't stop. We don't play games that's not what we're about. I told her that it wasn't okay for her to "date" other people and reversed it on her - she wasn't very comfortable thinking about me dating other girls. She initiated contact, not me.

mckenzie134

Listen i Know you dont want to play games but this is not games...

This is just looking after yourself and making her feel more attracted to you. This is the reason she is so unsure she is losing the attraction!!! She is only coming back cause she is missing you give her thet

make her miss you, you are not understanding!!!

IWhaen you disapear she wants you more arnt you finding a trend you must do this if you want her. Or keep trying your stuff but please keep me informed any news today???

mckenzie134

If you think talking to her and working it slowly is your go whatever is in your heart you will go with. Many people say different things on here but it is up to the individual to do what they want cause they will in the end. When was the last time you spoke and what wdid the conversation say i need details. thanks

talaniman

You are in the friend zone. And thats where you'll be after she finds someone.