Its one thing to give tough love. I do it and did it in my post.

But name calling and other mean vitrol shouldn't be tolerated.

"He is a gentlman." Hon, if he truly was a gentleman, he would not have gone outside of his marriage for anything - emotional connection, physical stimulation, anything.

Gentleman honor their marriage. If there is nothing left in the marriage, they do the honorable, gentlemanly thing and get out of the marriage before they enter into a relationship - even if it is emotional - with another woman. Having money or not having money has nothing to do with it.

I'm sorry that you were burned and taken advantage of, but can't you see that? He took advantage of you, did not tell you that he was married, led you on, and then dropped you. He played a game with your heart and your emotions.

This is not a gentleman.