So my ex and i have been on and off for like 2 years. I am in a much better place now, and happy without her. She had seen me when i went home during Spring Break and was amazed on how much better i looked, and how much better in shape i was. (yes, i had changed my style and started a much healthier life style).

She had started a new relationship with a guy while i was at home. Spring break was the last time i was going to ever go to that town again, for i am transfering schools, and my parents just moved.

Well all of a sudden during the last two days she has been texting me a bunch saying how much she misses me and how much she wants to be with me. I told her i didn't wnat to do the long distance anymore, because it would be worse, and i just want to be happy. She was declairing her love to me, and how much better i am now. Is this just because she saw me again? Saw how much i had changed for the better?

So whenever her new boyfriend comes along she can't text anymore and i say goodbye, but usually later in the day, or the next morning she texts me with the same things. I finally told her i didn't want to get back toegther cause i want to be with someone i can be around and trust all the time.

She said she was hurt, but still loved me, and wanted to still continue to talk and remain good friends. Is this something i should do? I dont like hurting people or blowing people off cause they do it to me all the time.

COOKIE MONSTER

hun your happy the way you are without her,you have moved on from that part of your life and she has moved on also and how would her boyfriend feel about you texing her?
if i was you i wouldnt tex back

and yes i think its just because she seen how much youve changed

dont tex back your just giving her false hope even when youve told her you dont want her back she will get hope from the texis [START NO CONTACT AGAIN]

COOKIE MONSTER

your relationship is in the past and thats were your ex should stay in the past

talaniman

Does that have to mean you can't tell her the truth, and then back it up with action? You do realise she is asking you to maybe cheat on her new b/f. Everything about this is just not healthy and NO CONTACT, keeps you out of trouble and chaos, and confusion. Thats not just blowing someone off. If you think it is, just be honest, and tell her to leave you alone, without sugarcoating it, and being nice.

friend4u178

If she really wanted to be with you she wouldn't have a current Boyfriend , and if she's willing to emotionally cheat on him at the moment with you that says something about her character or lack there of.

Fixer12

i agree with everyone. I just think it is so stupid just because she has seen me that she feels she needs to come and throw all her stuff on me.

She has a new boyfriend. why is she wnating to come back to me? She claims "oh i can't let go and never will!" well if you can't let go, why are you already with someone new?

friend4u178

Well don't let her. Her stuff , her problem.


Correct.
You've moved on to a better place and probably after a lot of suffering. Don't go back to square one.

KD33

If she is gonna use you because of your newer lifestyle then I'd say forget her.

talaniman

Often we see things in our exes that make us go hmmm! You have asked a very good question. She is full of crap, and doesn't really know what she wants. Translation, one confused person, who doesn't get it, yet.