Hey,

Okay...here it is...i went out on sat nite and had quite a few drinks....i ended up kissing this guy....thats not my problem. i actually like his brother....now my friend has told me that the brother likes me too and now i feel like i have stuffed up everything. I have only met these guys a couple of times and sat nite was my first time out for ages after coming out of a long relationship. I feel like a total idiot and feel really upset. i know im responsible for my actions and i have no excuses. yes i was drunk but at the end of the day I still have to accept my stupidness, but now i dont know where to go. I have to tell the guy i kissed that im not interested. It would be unfair otherwise...i was having fun and now i dont want anything. Im not interested in him and i have to be honest. Im not going to play games as i am a young adult..but now how do i now face the brother. Im embarrassed and feel like i have wrecked it with him. My friend says these two boys are nice and carefree but still i cant help but feel ackward. Any advcie on this issue will be great.

linz_legrand

Wow that is akward! My advice to you is that since you know the brother likes you, talk to the guy that you kissed and explain that you're not interested and it was a spontanious (and drunken) action. Since he's his brother, word will get to him and, since they're easygoing, it should blow over. Hope everything works out!

elrp2

Tell the guy you kissed that you're sorry but it didn't mean anything to you, you were drunk and wanted some fun...which went a bit too far. They're brothers so the chances are, the brother you like already knows.

You still have a chance, you have options.

1) You can tell the other brother that you kissed his brother but you were drunk and a bit of fun went too far and see how he takes it. He might feel awkward but if he really likes you he should understand it was a mistake and you can get on with things.

2) Don't tell the other brother. Although your conscience will probably get the better of you eventually. If he later on finds out then you can just say "oh that!! I was drunk it was nothing, i actually forgot!". It's quite deceptive but you could just play dumb, then this would prove to him how little it meant to you. You also have to remember that you're likely to go to this guys home and chances are you'll bump into his brother.

Also if this starts to cause problems between the brothers then i'd keep out of it. After all they are family and you don't want to get in between their relationship.

confused2504

Thanks art for your comment....

As a matter of fact, maybe ppl post their probs on the net to seek other ppl's advice, just to make peace with themselves. For your information, yes ppl give advice to other ppl cos when your not in the situation yourself, you can give an outsider's point of view. The person does not need to listen to the advice, but it helps to have a range of responses.
Frankly, you are in no position to tell ppl who's problem they should/should not respond to.....and for your information, i respond to ppl's problems when i have been in a similar situation.....
maybe you should post comments that are actually needed instead of wasting ppl's time reading the philosophy's you have on whether ppl are in a position to respond to other peoples issues.
Next time, dont waste my time writing on my issues...if i wanted advice from some one who is 64, ill ask my grandfather.

confused2504

Hey Art,

Maybe you should go back and have a look at what i wrote with jackie's situation...we wrote practically the same thing. You went on some long yarn about how I mentioned it was "typical" male attitude..which was not even the focus point of my response....and it was a little light hearted humor to cheer the lady up who was obviously upset about the situation.
If you bothered to read the rest of my response you will see how similar our responses were....so no, there are no hard feelings...its just really irratates me to hear from a guy who obviously thinks he has been there and done that, and only YOUR advice is good enough for other ppl.How about you come back down to earth..??
Who died and made you Dr Phil?????

You must be a sad man, if the only thing you can do is pass judgement on others ppl advice. As i have mentioned before, the advice is put out there, but NO ONE has to take it if they dont agree with it. Frankly, i dont need to justify myself to you or to anyone, i will put my opinion across whenever i like, if you dont like what i say, then thats tough for you! Im not interested in what you have to say, im only interested in saying my opinions in response to the issues ppl post on the net.
So thank you for your comments...and you have a nice day!