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I just got off the phone from my exwife, she wanted to talk to me about something that had been bothering her for a few weeks ever since I told her my exgf knew that I had called my exwife to go off about how happy every should feel now that she had brokenup with me. Come to find out......My exgf has been masking a bogus person and emailing my exwife for 3 years, 3 YEARS! They have been email friends for 3 years. My exwife had no idea, this girl had contacted her to spy on our marriage back when we were married. Then continued to talk to her after we got divorced. My exwife considered her a close friend even though she had never met her. Just were email pals through this mary kay makeup stuff and became friends. My exwife had told her personal details about everything about us and her life. Even now, she has still been in contact with her after we have been broken up for 3 months. ????? Am I just that stupid?????? How could I have been so taken?????? The reason my exwife has been bothered for a few weeks is because I told her that my exgf had called 3 days after I had talked to my exwife and knew I had called her. There was NO WAY for my exgf to know since my exwife only told like her mom and dad and her best friend and this email pal, just those people. What a lying crap thing to do to someone. I am so disgusted, how could I have been so wrong. I really loved this woman, and wanted to marry this person. I sacraficed my marriage, friends, respect, etc... just to be with her. I cant even believe she could be so cruel. I am such a STUPID MF!!!!!!! This is how mean people can be. I cant even imagine how low I feel now. I am just about as dumb as it gets. I have been played this whole time, not even knowing it. What more can I say? I guess everyone is alot smarter than I am. I am still in shock! This was so cruel to do to someone. I cant even believe I trusted her now.
Count your blessings that they are both ex's ---history!
Get on with your life and find someone worthwhile!
And don't tell any ex's any of your business while your at it!
Hello, Im sorry that your in so much pain right now, but you need to stop beating yourself up and try to ride the pain until you get through it. the x gf should never be contacted again, she seriously has issues!!!and needs to be left to deal with them!!! have u told your x wife that the email friend is your x gf?
yes that was what the phone call was about today. She knows now. It hurts to think that this is how someone says they love you and want to be with you and then play you right under your nose. I am such a moron. I know I cause alot of chaos in all that went on, but I DIDNT DESERVE THIS!
I had to laugh, not to make fun of you in anyway, shape or form, but in realization that you are just like so many of us who have been suckered at one time or another.
Count your blessings is right - consider the lessons learned and be glad you are done with both of these women. Also, re-evaluate yourself in all this. Do you think your marriage would have worked if this other woman had not been in the picture or would you have just chosen another affair?
Hope you wait awhile before dating anyone! The group, Beginning Experience, is for divorced and separated adults. Mostly run through a church but it is not denominational.
International. 112 teams. Founded 1974. Support programs for divorced, widowed, separated adults and their children enabling them to work through the grief of a lost marriage.
Write:
The Beginning Experience
c/o International Ministry Center
1657 Commerce Dr.
South Bend, IN 46628
Voice: 574-283-2079 or 1-866-610-8877
Fax: 574-283-0287
Website: Beginning Experience
While I advocate the Beginning Experience group, there are other such support groups available. I hope you find one and attend, even if it is only to find out what they do and the help they offer.
It's not you they will call stupid. They will use that and several other words to describe your X-G-F. This kind of activity demonstrates some pathology and now or later she'll need help. The title for your next book should be; "Francis and the Talking Voyeur."
PS Does this Voyeur have thunder thighs? Does she drive a pink Cad.? Does her breath remind you of Mexico City in mid summer? Does she wear fake toe nails? Does she color her hair? Does she have zits? Does she drink filtered water? Does she giggle? Does she chew gum? Does she drive an American car? Does she own a small fluffy dog? Is she on meds? Would you say she's Cute, Handsome or Slug face Ugly? I'll bet when she was born the doctor slapped her mother for having such an ugly little twink. I'll bet she passes silent air-biscuits on a regular basis and then looks at everyone else.
Hope this helps to shrink the word STUPID you've branded yourself with.
It is very difficult to understand peoples motives in wanting to hurt others, especially (as you said) people who say they love you and whom you love. So there is really no point in trying to translate their actions, that only makes sense in their heads and by giving them opportunity to explain or show some remorse you will end up getting even more hurt and confused......so although hard you need to leave the x gf and her bloody cat!!!! change your number if you dont have enough self restarint to ignore her calls!!!!! But you need to lock her off....is she going to start emailing your parents and your boss? i mean she crossed the line and now she needs to get locked off!!!
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