we've been together for almost 3 years now. we had problems but mostly, its because of him. he's always lying which i dont know why because there's no reason for him to lie. i was always very cool with whatever he and his friends are doing. 3 days ago, he broke up with me.. he said he need some time to think bout himself. he didnt give a really specific reason of why he wanted a time off. i just had to give him what he needs. after all, i dont want to push myself to him. now, im in pain. i cant stop crying.. and like what they say, it feels like its the end of the world for me. it hurts even more coz i feel like he dont care bout me anymore.
what should i do? i cant work .. i cant eat.. i cant sleep.. :'(

Devoted732

I was in a similar situation to you. I was with a guy for 3 years and he decided that he needed a break because he had to deal with personal stuff. He also told me how much he still loved me and wanted me to be in his near future.. but all he needed was a month off... In reality, when a person says they need time off, I think it's their way of being a coward around going into a complete breakup.. so they tend to give false hope.

When this happenned to me, I was a mess for the first 3 weeks lets say. Lost weight from not eating, couldn't concentrate at work, didn't want to have a life... etc... I got so used to the routine of the relationship and having someone there. After about a month, the anger stage came into play... and I soon began to realize how miserable I was in the relationship.... arguing and always walking on egg shells.

I sincerely think, that you need to take the time and focus on yourself. Try and new hobby, or go out and do things that you know he didn't really like to try and get your mind off of him. Soon you will get angry which will make things easier in coping with the break up.. and soon you will realize that you are too good for him. If someone is going to do this to you, do you reallyw ant to work things out? I wanted to at first... and now I have met a guy 3 months later who is the complete opposite of the man I had... He is wonderful and treats me very very well... Maybe my messed up break up happenned because there was something better waiting for me to find....

While you are on this break.. you need to have NO CONTACT!.. Do not call him or text him... if he calls or texts you, I would not respond to them...take away things that remind you of him... you need to really focus on yourself at this point ...