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I Guess I Wanted To Ask How Long Is Too Long To Wait For Someone To Propose? I've Been With My B/f For Almost 5 Years Now. We Talk About Getting Married All The Time And Having Kids, But He Keeps Saying When He's Ready. I Understand Where He Comes From When He Says He Wants To Be Ready, But Whn Will That Be? He Knows That I've Been Wanting To Take Our Relationship To The Next Level As Far As Commitment Is Concerned And I Have Been Patient So Far But I Think It's Starting To Run Out. I Don't Believe In Breaking Up With Someone For Something Like This, But I Just Wish I Would Know How To Make Him Realize That It's What I Want And Have Been Waitinf For For So Long. Is He Just Being A Typiacl Guy? Am I Just To Sit And Wait For When [i]he's [i]ready??
I Suppose You're Right. I Can't Help But To Feel Alittle Impatient Though. I Do Love Him And He Is Def Worth The Wait. I Just Hope It's Not Too Long Of A Wait.
I bet $1 million the minute you move on and start looking for your husband - he just may turn around.
See - once he thinks he believes he is losing you - he just may propose - OR you will get your answer! This is NOT a game, not a game. You have needs and wants - if he isn't providing those - move on.
See - he has you - your too available to him - he is happy with the way things are - are you? He has you, he doesn't need to do MORE! You WANT more! He's way too comfortable - and that's because oyu let him.
Tell him how you feel - your relationship has gone as far as it can, you're not going to wait around any longer. Good bye. Seriously. He may turn around then.
If marriage is your goal to a great guy then he may not be it.
I agree with WildCat - you that old saying 'Why buy the cow - when you can get the milk for free?' If you've been with him already for 5 years - you are probably doing a lot of things a wife would do for their husband. It's not too late though. I think you should tell him how you feel - I'm not saying give him an ultimatum - but just talk about what you want. Other than this lack of commitment to get married - is he a good boyfriend? Has he ever lied or cheated - or given you any reason to think he is just stringing you along?
Wow...i Never Thought About It That Way. It Makes Complete Sense. I Do And Give Him Everything. I Consider Myself To Be A Great Girlfriend And Not Only That But We've Lived Together For 4 Years. We've Bought Furniture 2gether And Have A Joint Bank Account And We're Even Talking About Buying A Home Together Soon. But For Some Reason He Wants To Hold Off On The Marriage Thing For Right Now. Grant It He's Still In College, But He Should Finish In The Spring Time. He Knows How I Feel About Marriage. It's Everything To Me.
So You Guys Think He's Too Comfortable With Me? You're Saying To Be Tougher?!?!?
I'd even advise a break - cut him off. See where this stands.
"I DO AND GIVE HIM EVERYTHING." - there in lies your problem. It's OK to be selfish. He must giggle every day at you! I wonder how much he respects you?
"SO YOU GUYS THINK HE'S TOO COMFORTABLE WITH ME?" Absolutely - 1000%. Why on earth does he need more? As you describe your situation - why on earth should he ever mary?
I am really not a big fan of living together - espcially if you are a strong amrriage proponent - becaue of the exact things you say.
He has you pretty solid. Start being selfish and do things for yourself - not for him.
Does he GIVE as much? I doubt it. It should be equal.
I would even consider moving out & try being independent. If you continue living with him - washing his clothes, cooking his meals, etc. - then why should he marry you? You are already his common law spouse. You are doing everything without the ring on your finger. I strongly suggest NOT to purchase a house with him. If I were you I would sit him down - tell him that you feel like you've made a mistake. Tell him that you love him & still want to continue your relationship. But you cannot continue with the way things are. He already knows how you feel about wanting to get married. I'm sure you probably want a family - (and who is he to deny this dream from you). I would move out & you might be surprised. He just might realize how much you mean to him - & pop the question. But if he doesn't & lets you leave - then it might be time to move on. You deserve to have someone who has the same ideas for their future. You deserve to have someone who wants to be married (since that is something that you feel so strongly about). It will be OK. If it's meant to be - then you two will live happily ever after. If he doesn't respond the way you feel that he should - then give him some space & let him decide if he really wants to be with you or not. I know this will be a hard thing to do - but I think it's about time for your boyfriend to 'go and purchase the cow before he can have the milk
I agree with Charlie: "If he doesn't respond the way you feel that he should - then give him some space & let him decide if he really wants to be with you or not."
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