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:]] My question is, How do you keep a guy happy when hes gone all the time on the road? I know sending cute (e-mails-text-pictures) is something they enjoy. But, what about when the conversations get shorter and little less intense and its always the same thing. I have tried finding different things to talk about but im still learning about him. So, any ideas? I don't want to talk him death and over sweet him or anything but I don't want to loose him ither. I want to do something special for him when he comes home to so :]] help me out..
When I was first married, my husband was an over the road truck driver. Gone from Sunday afternoon to Friday, late afternoon or early evening. Back then there was no such thing as cell phones or text messages. Had to be a bit more creative. I would pack his suitcase and tuck in little coupons good for, as an example, a back rub or a bubble bath or breakfast in bed or his favorite meal, or something even a bit sexier. I would also pack his first day's meals for him (he never wanted anything fancy) and tuck in some of his favorite treats or get his Mom to make one of his favorite desserts and include that in his cooler. One time he said he had wanted a particular book about Alaska and the library did not have it yet, so I went to the bookstore and bought it and put it in his briefcase.
You find those sweet little things that he would not think of but would be oh so glad you thought of. You could write some racy scene that involved you and him and text pieces of it to him each day. Anything goes.
I find that men, particularly in newer relationships, compartmentalize their lives. Work is work, personal life is personal life. One way you can make him feel supported is to continue your own life when he's gone and not go overboard telling him and acting like you miss him. While it's nice for him to know you'd like to be with him all the time, sometimes that can make a person feel guilty instead of needed. He will feel badly for not being there for you. So, be supportive of his work and instead of coming up with things to say and do to keep him happy, just take an interest in where he's going, what he's hauling, and him in general. Be a good listener.
Don't grill him to find out if he's meeting other women or anything like that. Men hate that. And don't overdo the cute stuff. A note in his suitcase is nice. Or hide a candy bar under the seat of his vehicle, and then call him at 3 one afternoon and tell him there's something there for him from you. Even big boys like surprise candy!
When he gets home, keep in mind he may be really tired and may want some time to look through his mail, unpack and relax before he attends to your relationship. Give him some time, and he will be a lot more receptive to the relationship in general, and to your attention in the moment especially.
Above all, take his cues. If he seems annoyed when you call him when he's driving, ask him if there's a particular time he preffers to touch base. If he seems to like when you're calling, make it a habit without intruding on his concentration on the road. Basic consideration and a balance of attention and space are appreciated by most people I have known over the years.
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