Things have gotten like a million times better than what they used to be. I have been with my bf for almost 2 1/2 years. But he just doesnt like to kiss and hold hands and stuff and that is a big problem for me. He also tries to control me too much. I guess i kinda do the same to him but not as bad and he always has some kind of reason for it all. i just wanna know how to change it. Like its ok for him to have friends but i cant have friends because... whatever the reason. And he thinks hes being fair and really hes not. honestly, i dont want friends anyways. But knowing that if i did have them, he would get all mad about it just really makes me feel bad. But all i have is him. I could understand if he didnt want me to have friends that are guys. but when he doesnt even let me have female friends, thats pretty bad. According to him just about every female is a slut and if i hang out with them then i will become one and end up cheating on him but all he does with his friends is talk about cars and stuff so its ok for him to have them. I know his friends do drugs. how do i know they wont get him to do it? he says he can say no and i cant. But hes said before that they got him to do stuff like that. And if i bring that up all i hear is "thats not as bad as some of the stuff youve done"
And for the holding hands and stuff... he always says that he wants to and we can from now on, then later he changes his mind and says that he only said that becuase.... whatever... he didnt wanna hurt my feelings, or he was just lying. etc.
Those are i guess the main problems. And i really think it can be fixed some how. i know its not worth giving up on. So what is it you think i need to do? The only good thing is that if it werent for him, i would probably be on drugs right now. but he tries to control me, like i said, and he wont let me do those things so i dont do them.
ANd its like hes afraid to say nice things to me sometimes. he wont admit he thinks im hot or anything.

workedtoohard

He doesn't like to kiss you, hold hands, or compliment you. Sounds like he might love you but isn't IN LOVE with you. I know because my ex wouldn't do those things very much (well kissing was ok but no real public displays of affection). She was jealous of my friends but that was just pissing on territory. On my birtday, I asked her what she liked about me and the first thing she said was "you like to go out to dinner to nice restaurants like I do". hahaahahaah

beth911

I thought things were getting better.. now its like they arent.

starbuck8

What should you do? For starters dump him on his A$$. Secondly, grow yourself a backbone and get back your dignity and self-respect, and find a real man who will tell you that he loves, honours, and cherishes you. If he doesn't respect you now, he never will.

Let me see. He won't LET you have friends, but HE can have all he wants. Most women are SLUTS. He won't LET you hold his hand or kiss him. His friends do drugs and HE can say no, but he doesn't believe YOU can. He said he was JUST LYING etc. HE won't LET ME do things so I don't do them.............................................. .............................................

Gee... sign me up for that!