how to get him back

abbs · #1 Jul 10, 2005, 01:55 PM

I was with my boyfriend for 3years and he broke up with me, he told me he didnt want a grilfriend, but 2weeks later he got with another girl that we both know. we are broke up 8months and im still in love with him, we still talk... the other day he rang me because he heard something i said about him when we first broke up. i told him i said it when i was hurt and upset and he understood, we continuted a conversation after we sorted that out and it turned out he had kept things that belong to me that ex boyfriends shouldnt keep especially when they broke up with you and they have new girlfriends.. what should i think of that? does still think of me? can he not let go of the past either? or should i just not look into it and try even harder to move on?

Wildcat21 · Jul 10, 2005, 03:23 PM

Seriosuly - you might want to consider seeing a therapist. You don't want to be with this guy - unfortunately he has moved on.

It really sounds like you (I say this over and over here) became too needy-clingy - people hate that.

You can't ever put someone on a pedestal. You seem a little desperate - which is terrible. You NEED A LIFE - school, job, WORKOUT, FRIENDS - always, Family, HOBBIES - your S/O is only a SMALL part of this equaltion - A SMALL PART. When you have otyher thinsg in your life which are really important - your S/O wont be as important and they WILL love you for it. No one wants to be smothered and suffocated and that is what usually drives someone a way.

Being too needy and desperate is repulsive. No one wants that.

People want what they can't have - ALWAYS!!!! ALWAYS!!! You can never completely surrender to some one - even when your 70. You need MANY other things in your life OR you WILL have heartache.

If you add other important things the S/O wont matter as much AND they will love you for it.

This relationship is long over - you did too much damage and pushed him away.

Please move on. If he does come back it's BECUASE YOU DID MOVE ON.

You need to date other people. Don't contact. Hang out with friends.

Wildcat21 · Jul 10, 2005, 05:47 PM

Also- when he sees that you have moved on, dating (even casually), BUSY (BE BUSY!), having great time with your friends, working out and getting in great shape, good carer or doing WELL in school etc.

You become a lot more attractive.

Stop contacting him. STOP taking his calls. STOP!



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