How to get a boyfriend-- meet a stable nice guy in this weird society?

Its also so weird how anyone else can get a bf/gf in a heartbeat....its life it happens for them...for me..that just doesn't happen...even if i try to make it happen it won't.. also being so 'beautiful' and also down to earth you'd think SOME guy would ask me out or want to go out with me? I dont dress up...i really sometimes dress not good or so average...yet again no guy has really been interested in me...even sexual encounters ive had with males have been horrible so i stopped trying...men rejecting me sexually and who knows what.... it seems every guy is so intimidated by me-- every single one except these weirdo geek types...who are erally geeky and not my type...literally with the nasaly voice ..only those guys seem to be interested in me and have the guts to ask me out but decen tlooking guys hate me and reject me right away....i dont see heidi klum having a problem getting a date or any attractive woman out there...however of course with me it just won't happen...

If you're really that pretty, then the nice guys are probably too shy to come up to you. Where do you go to meet people? Maybe it's the places that you meet people that attracts the same type of guys. Maybe you should go to different places to meet people.

In your case, it may be best to make some new friends and to see if your friends can introduce you to other people. That way, you have some sort of screening process instead of only meeting strangers.

Don't rate looks too highly. Most men (post-puberty, anyway) would rather go for the quiet woman in the corner reading a book and sipping a wine, than the loud bouncy busty blonde drunk in the middle of the room.

I agree with I wish. You should branch out what you're looking for and where you're looking. Decent men won't always go for the prettiest, as 1 - Inner beauty and personality is much more important, and 2 - If you take so much pride in your looks, you may eventually 'go off' a boyfriend if you no longer find him attractive. No committed man would want that fear or paranoia.

X Dani

true dani...but the weird thing is...people call me 'quiet' adn label me that way-- oh shes so QUIET..oh u seem so 'RESERVED"....im not the loud busty blonde.. im dark haired petite exotic looking...i also dont take pride in my looks...like i said i dress average and am down to earth....i just happen to be 'pretty'... and i have a great personality and tons of inner beauty---its a sad joke that only ugly women have good personalities and pretty women don't...it's bizarre...btu being 'hot and beautiful' i cant get any guy at all and its weird...

This is a weird question....but to me it makes no sense and is just so odd. I'm an average female...I'm very pretty...there aer lots of pretty women in the world..i see them sometimes...even ones who people stare at sometimes...however...ni my case--everyone just picks on me...anywhere i go anything I do.. i get picked on...it makes no sense-- do people pick on pamela anderson..katie holmes..whoever...but they pick on me...Im beautiful and not anymore attractive than other pretty girls or celebrities...however I just get mistreated by people for no reason....I have no friends...i didn't even go to a party in college-- never got invited anywhere-- people literally shun me...my life is being persecuted and abused by people...I'm not paranoid exaggerating lying ...this is how i get treated...and this is my life...its raelly hard-- women will not be my friend b/c I'm beautiful and they hate me with a passion..however, men hate me too--im far from stuck up...I'm the total opposite...I'm caring loving..friendly...I love to heal and help people...but people will not be around me b/c I'm beautiful...they seem to hate my presence...men are so intimidated and turned on by me they cant be around me b/c they're too turned on and just reject insult and abuse me...

i don't have a life.. i don't go on vacations I've never had a boyfriend..i have no friends...anything i do i get mistreated or screwed over in..my last job i was the top sales rep-- never got promoted and a bunch of sales screwed me over and had me fired...jealousy and who knows what...men don't treat me like a 'hot woman' they treat me like a freak put me down adn insult me.... that's like men putting angeline jolie down and rejecting her-- this is how people treat me...I've been told I look like..angelina jolie, katie holmes, catherine zeta jones..tiffany amber thiessen...let's say I look like none of these people but I am just beautiful and normal and nice...and these women don't have problems finding men...or making friends..(granted they're celebs but I mean even other women like them)... why do people idolize kim kardashian but despise me? (im not saying I'm a celebrity but lookswise I'm sayign I'm on the level of these people and have stand out prettiness and yet everyone hates me for it but idolizes other people)...i'll say I kind of look like vivien leigh sort of? that kind of classic beauty... I'm not focused on my looks---but I'm saying its the reason people mistreat me and no one will accept me at all? literally---EVERYONE hates me and is jealous of me...I'm so used to it i don't know what to do anymore...anytime i join something.. I'm the center of attention, but ignored..and people aer trying to do something to screw me over...or mistreat me... i don't know why they give other women a chance and do this to me yet I'm not stuck up....personality wise I'm more like...a hippie type who is carefree and laid back...I'm extremely laid back and just nice to anyone...i love to make friends...but i can't b/c women literally just hate me....and they stay far away from me and men just want to abuse or use me or reject me too... i live life in isolation and cant even manage to get a boyfriend no matter how hard i try i cant meet anyone...its a weird reality....even other women who have issues or find it hard to meet other women or guys are married or something but i cant get a husband and I'm a gorgeous woman...and nice and kind and caring...and considerate...i only somehow meet crazy gay men who pretend to be straight to use me to mentally torture...its weird...I'm used by people as an object to abuse and most people just abuse or pick on me...anywhere i go....i don't know what to do....this is my life but I look at others having fun and getting these great things and i think-- its not right ? why is this happening ?

I'm kind of like...the 'stuck up hot girl' in the '90's rap dr dre videos" who walks in and all the people just start throwing stuff at her or dumping water on her-- this is how people treat me! but its so weird b/c I'm not stuck up at all and I'm very cool and friendly and go out of my way to be nice or try to be nice to people-- even if i think they're uncomfortable in my presence i try to be nice or funny... i don't dress up...i wear jeans/shirt...people don't hate gwen stefani..she's beautiful? but they hate me...they despise me...adn I also look like a really nice girl too and it makes no sense why everyone hates me yet I'm nice and sweet--it makes no sense and isn't fair...no one is jealous of other hot women but they are jealous of me and I'm like one of the nicest people...i don't get it---it baffles me...even if i open up am friendly...nothing--people just run...or treat me oddly or mostly are abusive to me or pick on me...why do people do this? to me in particular?

oh yeah and screw kim kardashian...she is a stuck up greedy spoiled b*tch who has so much money and only cares abuot being fake and has no talent... people idolize mean or stupid or stuck up pretty women but just get off on puttingf me down..it makes no sense-- men are terrified of me-- literally men run away from me...i dont get it??? to me its all shocking...weird...strange...alyssa milano can get a boyfriend? any pretty girl can..but me? i swear in my life there aer at least two gay men...every yr texting me messing with my head trying to manipulate and destroy me....that's it??? that's all i get in life.. i cant meet a guy get a boyfriend im a virgin....i look like the kind of girl you think people would love...and want to be around...instead i get rejected shunned....its shocking then people are praising this rude crazy weirdo who is mean and strange...and putting me down....why do people want to shun a nice girl just b/c shes beautiful but not the stuck up beautiful women-- they love the stuck up hot women and cater to them...in 33 years i cant manage to egt ONE boyfriend but ive been told bysome ppl im the most beautiful woman theyve ever seen .. huh????

oh i wish, I wish....i cant make any friends..women wont be around me same reason b/c im pretty?? i dont get it but they won't...so im screwed...i cant make friend and no one will introduce me to anyone...
its like im trapped in this sad situation of total isolation....and it wont change b/c guys also won't be around me b/c im beautiful and theyre scared...it sucks and makes no sense...

I think I see the problem. You've got to stop thinking about yourself and how you feel, and get inside the other person's skin in order to relate to him (or her).

"How can I make that person smile?"

"What can I say to help that person have a good day?"

"I wonder if that person has a dog or cat as a pet. I'm going to ask and listen to what is said."

also...my life is this sad irony...im this person who if anyone was in my situation i'd go out of my way to be wth them hang out with them so that they arent suffering...yet everyone knows im totally alone and seems to want me to be alone...its so sick and unfair...im the compassionate caring person living a life of beign persecuted by people...people treat me lesser than human...like a sub human..as if i dont deserve my own opinion rights anything...ive suffered horribly...and i keep just getting abused...and cant get a boyfriend relationship sex nothing...its weird...my life is a horrible paradox...the only ones who like me are animals and my cats and animals seem to sense all the crap ive been thruogh and all react to me the same way...its strange...but animals love me and humans hate me....