How Do You No If They Love You If They Cheated?

blueeyeswonder · #1 Sep 5, 2009, 05:27 PM

My Bf Has Cheated On Me And Im Not Sure If He Loves Me?
How Would I No If He Does?
He Says He Loves Me And That But I Dunno I Guess!!!
Dunno If It Me Being Stupid

Help x

Ginny Finny · Sep 5, 2009, 05:54 PM

the bottom line is HE CHEATED ON YOU! if you really think that he loves you, then you two need to sit down and talk this through. why did he cheat on you? because he loves you? no. he might still, yeah. but you gotta sort it out. and be careful in what you decide, because wats to say he wont do it again?

britEl · Sep 5, 2009, 06:13 PM

How long had you two been dating for? How old are you? Do you trust him again after him cheating on you? How long ago did he cheat on you? Did you love each other before this incident? Just because he says he 'loves' you doesn't mean he's going to mean it. Although we cannot give you a definite answer here, and we do need a little more information than what you are giving us, I'm going to have to say, I doubt he loves you if you haven't been dating long or if you are younger. If someone is in love with someone they don't usually cheat on the person they 'love'. Don't just let him off the hook because he says he loves you, he has to mean it, and you have to be less forgiving if something like this just happened and your willing to love him again.

zeeniee · Sep 5, 2009, 08:48 PM

Well this is what you need to realise

A person that cheats is:

Only thinking about themselves

Takes what is in front of them, and enjoy butter being spread on both sides of the bread

Does not think of the consequences his /her actions that will have on him/herself and to the people that are involved

Will find a excuse to justify his/her cheating,rather that actually admitting he/she was wrong in cheating

Has no boundaries or line within themselves = crossed that line and cheated

Has no respect for himself

Has no respect for you

Has no respect for what you both have as BF/GF

Will always look for a easy way out, instead of solving problems and finding a solution

For some ( not all), once cheated- they WILL do it again- except they will just become smarter at not getting caught....

He may love you etc- but what you need to ask is do you want to be in love a cheater? Do you want a cheater to love you???

blueeyeswonder · Sep 6, 2009, 06:50 AM

Hi we have been out for 10 months now, and I am 18.
He says he loves me all the time.

I do trust him sometimes, but not all the time, which is understandable, I think that about it.

s_cianci · Sep 6, 2009, 06:52 AM

If he loved you, he wouldn't have cheated on you ; it's as simple as that. You can do with that what you will, but that's the cold hard fact.

amicon · Sep 6, 2009, 06:57 AM

actions prove love and he cheated on you-anyone can say i love you and its just three words which mean nothing unless they re accompanied by loving actions.

friend4u178 · Sep 6, 2009, 10:45 PM

We see people on here all the time who have been cheated on and the majority of them it's an established relationship and there are all sorts of reasons that it can happen . Not that I condone cheating but sometimes there are reasons within those relationships which have built up over long periods of time which contributed to it.

But to cheat on your so called Loved one after only 10 months is totally unacceptable and a sign to me that there's every chance it's going to happen again.

Thats my take on it and if it were me I'd dump his sorry A55 before he hurts you again.

mudweiser · Sep 12, 2009, 11:53 AM

1- How old are you?

2- He cheated on you-- he doesn't love you.

3- You should split up with him, he cheated on you.

Sarah