how do u know that a guy wont really give up on you?

I met this guy a couple months already. We started of as friends but then it became more intimate and sexual. At first, I didn't want to take the relationship seriously as we are only working in this country tentatively and we will be going on our separate ways. Prior to our relationship, he was already scheduled to go home in 5 months. He became my confidante and he to me. I told him all my hang ups from my past including that of being a sexually abused kid including men giving up on me after promising not to let go. And he made a promise he will not give up on me and that he will help me recover. He did actually helped me overcome my sexual inhibitions and sex issues and I became comfortable with my own sexuality.

However, my self esteem and insecurities increased during the time we were together. First, fear because he will be leaving soon. Second, threatened because he was very honest with me telling me his past relationships that he has had several women sometimes 3 at the same time. He has a pregnant girlfriend back home waiting while he is ing me and another one with his daughter and he has other kids in the past as well from different women. But he said that I'm the the last woman in his life because he found already what he was looking for...someone he can share his secrets and be comfortable with. However, his honesty just made the situation worst for I became doubtful of his love and intentions for me. His complicated life made it more difficult for me to accept. His leaving home made matters worst.

The last two months before he left were horrible and he became an , irritable and we fight a lot. Sex was good and we often had sex but we never get to talk on anything. I've broken up with him many times but he never want to give up. He said he made a promise and he will keep it. He said that even if we are separated by distance he will not give up on me and we will continue our relationship because he loves me. He went home last november to his girlfriend and his other women to visit his kids. He was very honest in telling me about his whereabouts and activities with other women and at the same time always telling me he loves me. It was very difficult for me and I went through depression and had difficulty sleeping thinking he is sleeping with his girlfriend. I again tried to break up with him but he was always persistent.

Then he left home for another assignment to a new country, not very far from where I am now. It is a relief for me since he won't be with his past women. He talked about us being together again, and that our love will flourish and to have vision always of us being together. I did actually believe somehow and ready to give up everything I have here to go to him. But when I asked him if he can come first as financially I can't make it on april as I have other commitments, he wrote me an email saying that he can't come because of his job and he never offered anything to help me go to him. I felt really bad and here I am ready to give up everything and he can't give up anything for me including his 2 women back home. He always say that he loves the 3 of us but to a different level. But since I'm the one who has no kid with him, I feel like I'm the least priority. I feel like I was just used for sex, a sidetrip while he has no one. And in his email he compared me to his other 2 women saying that they are both understanding and very supportive of his career whereas I'm not. He says I'm already getting obsessed with him as my world already revolves around him and that I need psychological help and end his email with 'still I will not give up on you'. That really hurt me so much as he said this after I'm already starting to make demands. I did not communicate with him for 3 weeks.

And last week he called me, I answered the phone and we talked. I said I'm moving on without him its enough. And he said he is not giving up and that he loves me, we are in this together. I don't want to believe anything anymore as he always lie to his women. I thought I was doing okay but after our conversation, all these negative thoughts and doubts poured in again - on why he still don't want to give up. A thought kept on coming to my mind, its because of the money. He left all of his appliances to me so I can use it while I'm still here but that ill have to sell it when I leave this march and give him the money. It is huge amount of money and he has an inventory of things. That is only the reason that I can think of why he probably don't want to let go. But then he kept on calling me again asking why I'm not answering his emails etc. And again he felt so frustrated now why I don't believe him that he loves me and won't give up etc. He said that he felt empty without me. He is not giving up.

Im now so confused. For the this first time in my life, here is a person who doesn't want to give up on me, I've been praying for this to happen and yet why am I not happy with it, why am I doubting ad pushing him away. I accept that I am afraid of losing him for he is the only person who tries very hard to understand me and accept me. Yet I am very doubtful of him because of his past. He said that I met him given his past complicated life already and that I shouldn't be using it againes him.

I don't know what to do. You think he will never let go? You think he really loves me? You think I should hold on and give it a shot? I've decided to play along with it and not expecting that we will ever be together again.

What to do?