Did I do the right thing?

confused63 · #1 Mar 23, 2008, 10:57 AM

I over the past three days have told the man that I have been involved sexually with fro the past three years that my son past away. I left two voice messages and an email to I have gotten no response to. I consider this to be very inconsiderate on his part and don't believe that he is that busy to pick up the phone or email me back to at least say he was sorry to hear about my loss.

Today I sent him another email telling him that because of his cold heartedness that I could no longer be his sleeping partner and that he needed to learn how to be a real friend to someone. Not just a person who becomes your friend when they are looking to get something from you for their own personal gain.

Did I do the right ting in cutting this selfish man loose or should I have waited to hear what he had to say? At this point the people that cared the most about my situation have already contacted me as far as I am concerned.

charlotte234s · Mar 23, 2008, 11:05 AM

Yes, if he wants to have sex wit you, but not be involved even a little bit emotionally with you, at least in times of great difficulty, he is just using you.. you did the right thing.

bluerose · Mar 23, 2008, 11:38 AM

You most certainly did the right thing. What a heartless person he must be. You have checked to make sure he is still around? I’d hate to be talking about someone who might have had an accident and that is the reason you haven’t heard from him. Is there some way to check?

Marriedguy · Mar 23, 2008, 11:39 AM

Sorry to hear about your son pasting away.

I think you made the right decision cut this out of your life. I don’t know you personally yet I can show compassion and empathy for your situation. Most decent human beings can and will do this.

I read your post took note that you did not call this person a boyfriend, your man, or even a friend. You referred to him has someone that your had a sexually relationship with for 3 years, which applies that sex is what this relationship was all about. The situation in your post is one of the reasons why I do not advise anyone to have just a sexually relationship with someone. Because the sole purpose of the relationship was sex, you did not care whether or not this person was good and decent human being. Then you made the mistake to think this person was.



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