My boyfriend broke up with me yesterday and I am in bits all I keep doing is breaking down in tears and everywhere I go and everything I do reminds me off him I can't take it no more I miss him and I want him back. He is not answering his calls and not answering his text messages so what do I do. The night before he promised he would never leave my side and he would always be here to help and support me but when he broke up with me he said he liked me and loved me with all his heart but could not do it no more and I have not seen him since. What do I do how do I get him back I need as much advice as I can get so if anyone knows what to do then answer my question please

kctiger

Do not call or text him again. Leave him alone. Trust me, you need to show him that you can handle this! It is hard, but you can do it. We have all been through it. Do not contact him again! Let him come to you (if he doesn't, then move on).

notbigthing

hi, dear, we were all there before, i know the pains, i lost 2kgs after got dumped, didnt want to eat/sleep, my suggest is stop texting/calling him, dont sell urself short, keep urself busy,read the threads here, distract urself from thinking him too much, most of us dont get exes back, want to get him back, the first thing u should do is love urself.

bigbird213

Busy, Busy, Busy... Keep yourself so busy that you don't have time to let these thoughts get to you. Try to stay with your friends, keep busy with school, read threads on here, give advice.. Anything you can do at all to keep yourself busy will help you.

You need to be distracted from thinking about him as much as possible until some time passes. As time goes on, you will begin to feel better and better, but you need to work at not dwelling on him.

As far as getting him back... its not going to happen. He might come back on his own accord, but you can't "get him back" against his own will. He has already shown that (ignoring calls/texts). Respect yourself, keep your dignity, and start moving on.

Lovelee

The question is, why did he break up with you in the first place? If your at fault it might have something to do with it. If he's at fault then he is just cruel. I wouldn't call or text him anymore.

talaniman

As emotional, and as much hurt as your feeling now, accept its over, and take your time, and grieve, but leave him alone. It will get better later, and thats a promise. This is a great time to get yourself together, and learn to love yourself.

Sorry, there are no secret pills to change the feelings of others.

snowalps

whats the reason he opted out? was it beacuse of you ? if there was apparently no such reason strong enough to lead to what he did, then he did the wrong thing and if at all then, he must realize this on his own and come back to you. in case he doesnt, forget it, coz then hes not worth you.
if you think the reason was strong enough and you really did something that you deserved this somewhere as a reaction from him, then let me know, you may have to find a way to reach him and say you are sorry. that would turn my main advise though, so tell me if its this case or the earlier case.

in any case, judge the reason with all fairness, and with no soft corner for him or yourself whatsoever and then post it here.

samfulcher

Sorry to hear about your broken heart. Unfortunately, that is probably why he will not answer your calls or texts. Give it some time (a day or two max). Get yourself together. Remember that most break-ups are temporary, often they are just tests. That's right, he is testing you in a way, to see how far he can push and get away with it.

When he starts answering your calls or, better, calls you because you will have stopped hounding him, you need to accept the break-up and tell him you have been thinking about things and are thankful to have your freedom back. Tell him this as sincerely as you can. He will not expect this and will realize he needs to start thinking about what he did.

Gradually, he will be the one who starts missing you like mad and you should be able to get him back, no problem.

For more help, drop me a line.

Sam,
Relationship Advisor
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XxMissBxX

I took your advice and i have left it a day or two without phoning or texting him but i have got to the point where i did call his mobile this morning but yet again he never answered i just want him to know how much i love him and want to be with him i want him to see how much pain and hurt i am in cause i miss him so much. But what can i do if he wont answer my calls and text messages. This all started because off me i have been hurt so many times in past relationships emotinally and psycically and i been cheated on so many times one of which one off my ex's turned out to be gay and i found him in bed with another man therefore i have really bad trust problems and i doubt everything but he said he would stick by me and support me and help me through it but the day before he ended it he seen a counsillor and i know i should not off been listening but i heard him say to her that he loved me he wanted to stick by me and do whats best for me and she turned around and said to him that if he wants to do best by me then sit me down and break up with me gently dont answer my calls or text messages and let me move on and after that he promised me he would not listen to her and we would be ok but the next day he was not answering my calls and when he finally did he i was all happy and he just said straight out that he could not do it no more seeing me upset from my past was killing him and he could not do it so we met and sat down he looked into my eyes said he liked me alot he was sorry but could not do it no more kissed my lips and walked away and i ent seen or heard from him since and now it is really killing me that he is gone i cant take it no more and i dont know what to do no more i really want him back

samfulcher

MissBx,

I'm curious as to why the counsellor would tell him to break up with you. Could it be that there is something about him that could have a potentially devastating effect on your emotions? It just doesn't make sense why a counsellor would give such poor advice unless, say, he was married or something and that seems unlikely...

Anyway, back to your problem. If I were you, I would do what I can to avoid making another phone call. Yes, you want him to know how much you love him, but he already knows this. He knows it every time you call, but even without the call, he would still know it because that is how you left things. Try two days, or three, or even more, but when you call, try to arouse his curiosity by putting a positive tone in your voice. Something like, "Hey, it's me. I just wanted to thank you for something you did, and I wanted to do it in person. Call back when you have a free moment, okay? Take care."

It's important to be overly positive (if you're already a positive person, great). Make sure you've got the biggest smile on your face when you call as it will come through in your voice. The point here is that he will be curious to get back in touch -- why do you want to thank him, he will wonder. And with the positive tone (minus the high "I love you" emotion), he will really wonder what the heck he could have done for you.

Right now, he hears your broken heart and he won't want to deal with it. Can't blame him, right? He has been able to avoid your calls this long, so why not continue....

Anyway, give that a shot and let me know how it goes.

Sam
The Match Maker Review
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