How do I get my ex back

dani04 · #1 Feb 23, 2008, 12:32 PM

I've been with this guy for about a year. and I really like him. He was so nice to me. about a week ago he said its over because he can't do anything else because he can't think because I am all he thinks about. I don't know how to get him back. He said it was me and him forever and I want it to be me and him forever. I just get Ill thinking about him with some other girl. I really like this guy alot, he is litteraly my world. He taught me how to be a better person, he told me when I did wrong, he just made me who I am today. I still want to be with him. I asked him a couple of days ago if we could try again and he said NO IT'S OVER get over it. It really hurt. I really miss to.
Can someone please tell me what I should do. How I should act around him, what I should'nt do.

Thank you.

Marriedguy · Feb 23, 2008, 01:32 PM

Move on unless you want to get hurt. I never heard someone say I cant be with you because he/she couldnt get you off there mind. That does not make any sense. He is lying to you there is another reason why he does not want to be with you. The reason is beyond me. He is definitely hiding something. Why do you want to be with someone that cant be honest with you?

pasiria · Feb 23, 2008, 10:06 PM

Have you realize that you have your answer-"he said NO IT'S OVER get over it". Be strong, cry if you must, kick the pillow and let time heal you.

youcantstop48 · Feb 23, 2008, 10:07 PM

He is playing head games with you for some reason, cause he told you he didnt want it anymore so im not sure what he is doing, its messing with you cause he said he cant get u off his mind, but i think its someone else he cant get off his mind

starbuck8 · Feb 23, 2008, 11:00 PM

I agree with youcantstop! He is messing with your head and I don't think he cares about you or your feelings. He isn't being honest with you, and he isn't being considerate of your feelings either. Move on to someone who will be honest and upfront with you and treats you the way you deserve. HE did not make you who you are, he just made you feel a bit better about yourself for awhile because he made (false) promises. Surround yourself with your friends and cry, scream, get it out...and then go have yourselves a good "i'm better off without him" party!!

Jesushelper76 · Feb 24, 2008, 07:55 AM

First of all it is over.

The mistake you personally made was making him your whole world. This will destroy a person.

You need to figure out how to live for yourself and not make anybody your whole world. There always needs to be a balance with partners. Maybe that is your lesson in all of this.

Best wishes to you and you need to leave this guy alone. the more you contact him the worse off things will be.

JBeaucaire · Feb 24, 2008, 08:57 AM

There is nothing more attractive than a fully self-assured, self-reliant, self-capable woman who THEN makes time to include you in her life on purpose. It's lovely.

On the other hand, wrapping your life/happiness around a guy can creep a lot of guys out, and it can happen unexpectedly, as you've just discovered.

If this guy literally became your world, then there's your problem and you know what to work, eh? Once you have established your life as an individual and confidence it your bedmate, the guy(s) will view/desire you in a much better way.

And you'll be a better mate since you won't be pressuring these guys to make you happy, you'll already BE happy and they will just be a new part of it.

Yep, that's WAY more attractive.



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