How do you know if the person is worth waiting, when you know that on the other end...she has someone else too?

Chery

Hi and welcome to this forum. You never know whether a person is worth waiting for. These are things we feel as a 'gut feeling' and sometimes when we hope too hard for something, we concentrate on that individual and weigh the pros and cons. Now if the other person is seeing someone else, and you are still young, get her off the top of your list of fantasies for the future. If she broke up with you there was a reason for it and you have to do an attitude check to see if you need to adjust to some changes in your way of treating others. If she left because she had to geographically move, then she will let you know thru contact. Until then, please do yourself a favor and costantly remind yourself that no other human being worth you giving up on yourself.

Please let us know a little more about yourself and the relationship you had, things you shared, etc. and I will be able to read more and let you know what my 'gut feelings' about this are.

one_life

Chery is right.
Only time will tell, if they are worth it. In the mean, don't miss out on life. Don't stand still and don't make this person the centre of your universe.

Wildcat21

No one is worth waiting for. Date other people.

Women do move on from one guy to the next, so most time when you start seeing a gal, she most likely is stringing a guy a long until the next 'mr. Right' comes a long and fails her.

letmeno

I can't think of one person in this world who I would waste one millisecond of my valuable, precious, and unreplacable time waiting on if they were not waiting on me. If they were in school, if they were away in the military, if they were away in the peace corp, if they were away doing the world, our friendship or relationship or mankind some good, and @ the same time remaining faithful to me, or any other exception to the rule. Do not sit around waiting by the phone, putting your life and your happiness on hold waiting on someone who is out having fun, sex, and sharing their emotions, feelings, body, soul, heart, and mind with someone else. Why are you even questioning your own self worth? To do this means that you have admitted to yourself, and the other person that you are not capable of finding someone who will make you #1, that you are not capable of finding not one other woman in this whole great big wide world who likes you and wants to be with you and only you. Out of the trillions of women in this world there is someone who has been waiting all of their lives to find someone just like you. My advice to you is this, there are alot of women on this earth so you better start searching for her right now, you got alot of area to cover! You and this guy's girlfriend (that is what she is, someone else's girlfriend) if you two were meant to happen the first thing that you need to do is back up and let her make her choice. When she can have the cake and eat it too, she will. Leave her alone for right now, and start searching for that lady who's been waiting on you.
Good Luck!

Wildcat21

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh so true. Awsome stuff letmeno. YOU have to to do that. Heartache is avoidable - waiting around is worthless - never works. Only time they come back is when you find someone else.

letmeno

Even if these two do end up coming together as a couple somewhere down the road, she will have so much more respect for him. She will know that he is not some weak and needy guy who will ask "how high" when she says jump. She will respect the fact that he had a choice and he chose to be with her, she will value the relationship a whole lot more instead of looking @ it as a convience, and most of all she won't be so quick to say "I need a break" because she know's that he won't wait around on her.

Wildcat21

You are one smart lady. So true.

Women want a man they know other women value. They want a guy who has options. For some reason women NEED to fight for their man - not some lap dog or some fiercely loyal guy who wont look at another women.

letmeno

If I had a guy that no other woman wanted but me, that aint saying much about me. I think that challenges, competition, and mystery breaks up the monotiny in dating. I think that we all have the fantasy of snapping our fingers and having our guy @ our beck and call but other than foreplay, I wouldn't have too much use for that. It takes the stress off of me to have someone else call the shots and taking charge. Just like women don't want a weak guy, I don't think that guy's want weak women either. Women are competitive by nature, when we see another woman after the same guy that we are after, we go in for the kill, instead of moving on to find someone else that suits our intrest, we have to have THAT guy. GIRLALU, the moment that she finds out that you have gone on about your way and is no longer waiting by the phone, you will see another side to this gal. Put your best foot forward and show her that she is not your universe.
Weak, needy, and desperate is very unattractive!

one_life

True true. Most guys will move on, if they find a woman unavialable, but not most women. My point is, become unavialable to her.