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How do I choose between my long term partner or my lover,
I have been with my partner for 8 years and we own a house together (we are 23yo)
Our long time friend (his best friend) moved in with us after breaking up with his fiance and we are all very very close,
We do everything together and over the last 8 month the friend and I grew very close,
We are much more compatible than my partner and I and over the last few month we have been having an affair,
My partner knows of this, he has asked me to stop but has not asked his friend to move out, as I said before we are all extremely close and often we all sleep in the same bed.
I think my partner is afraid of losing us both if he makes a fuss, this has happened before some years back but we moved out of that situation and I stuck with my partner.
The friend feels horrible and loves my partner as much as I do, but we are so close as well and find it so hard to hide our feelings for each other.
I love my partner, I feel like I owe it to him to stick by him, but I also love the friend. I want us to be like we were before this happened but I'm not sure if this is possible now?
What should I do?
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Oh come on now................. the first time around wasn't enough? Everyone that answered you in your first post 3 days ago probably hasn't changed their opinions. See attached.
You heard it before and I went back to read your other post - what you need is to get out on your own, your very own and make your own mark in the world. If you three were all happy like three eggs in the nest, who would care? But you are not happy, your partner is not happy - so go and make a change. You stay there because it offers you some security and you do not have to venture out and become independent. You are 23 years old already. Time to grow up.
ok, just wanted to word it better and in that time also my view changed slightly. i wanted to leave my partner before, now i'm not so sure, anyway threesomes work? could i convince them of this since we were all so close before and the only thing that's changed is sex!???
Umm i didnt read your info just the tittle. YOUR MArried honor your commitment. What is wrong with people now a days. You loved him at one point, find that again
Alot of people these days dream of getting swept off their feet, and falling love. Love is a commitment, and those couples celebrating their 50th anniversaries are able to celebrate because they are committed and put effort into the relationship. It's not always going to be peachy, but that's part of relationships that help build stronger ones.
How do I choose between my long term partner or my lover,
I have been with my partner for 8 years and we own a house together (we are 23yo)
Our long time friend (his best friend) moved in with us after breaking up with his fiance and we are all very very close,
We do everything together and over the last 8 month the friend and I grew very close,
We are much more compatible than my partner and I and over the last few month we have been having an affair,
My partner knows of this, he has asked me to stop but has not asked his friend to move out, as I said before we are all extremely close and often we all sleep in the same bed.
I think my partner is afraid of losing us both if he makes a fuss, this has happened before some years back but we moved out of that situation and I stuck with my partner.
The friend feels horrible and loves my partner as much as I do, but we are so close as well and find it so hard to hide our feelings for each other.
I love my partner, I feel like I owe it to him to stick by him, but I also love the friend. I want us to be like we were before this happened but I'm not sure if this is possible now?
What should I do?
Uh... That sucks!! I think you should stop and look at whats going on. SO, you sleep in the same bed with your partners friend in the same house? You need to make a choice quick or you all are going to get hurt! It's not fair to your partner nor your lover. Just think who was there in the begining and who you want there in the end! Good LUck!!
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