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    How to convince the girl I like the most to marry me?

    Asked Feb 24, 2012, 10:27 PM 14 Answers
    Hi, I have been in contact with a girl for nearly 3 months through phone and mail. We exchanged photos and liked each other. She gave me her dads number to speak about our marriage and with his consent we met at the coffee shop. I liked her so much that I don't want to lose her for any reason. So Just a day before we meet I gave her some wrong picture about me to see her reactions. I tend to do this because she also did it for me earlier in the fear of I may reject her when we meet. I told her I'm a dark skinned person and not good looking guy, not much caring person etc etc. For this she said it doesn't matter for her as she can adjust. But next day when I called her she was not the same as a day before. She said we can meet next time! I wondered if what I told her become a disaster for our relationship. Although as planned I met her but I can clearly see she is completely changed her mind about me and she left me quickly after having a cup of coffee.

    After returning home I called her but no response. When I called her father, he conveyed her message that I don't have to wait for her. Then few days later when I called her from another number she spoke with me as nothing had happened and she promised me that she will call me back soon which never happened. I have written her a long mail but no reply. After 2 weeks I called her again from other number she said why u calling me all of sudden.. then next day I sent her one text message saying how much I love her for which she replied saying she will complain to her dad and police if I torture her any more!

    In the last 3 months we exchanged lot of messages, I had complimented her, motivated her so much.. spent all of my time to bring the best out of her. But now with her behavior I got too much pain and I have replied to this text message badly. Still I'm in completely confused state and can't forget her either. Lost interest in things I used to do happily. I get hurt because I have connected her with my life so deeply I guess... So what are the possibilities that I can convince her and able to marry her? Her father is busy looking her a match, once fixed she will never be mine.. any good thoughts or solutions to bring her back will be appreciated.

    Thanks.

    Last edited by Wondergirl; Feb 26, 2012 at 04:56 PM.
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    Feb 24, 2012, 10:37 PM
    She's told you not to contact her anymore and it is best to just do that. It's only been 3 months and you only actually met her one time. Save yourself and forget about this one and find someone else.

    At this point, she has changed her mind about you for whatever reason and now you are becoming a problem to her because of your refusal to accept that she isn't interested now. She has told you to stop and if you continue, it will become a case of harassment and that is not going to help you win her back for sure.
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    Feb 25, 2012, 12:27 AM
    I think this lady doesn't wanted to be bothered again, so there's nothing more you can convinced her. You just said that she just changed her mind when she saw you... and report if you keep on bothering her to tell you honestly maybe he doesn't really like you at all, she thought it will work on but it never was... you just do now is move on and accept the fact that all we wanted is not really possible sometimes... you find a new one that accept you no matter what , even she will see you and accept your whereabouts and not a stereotype
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    Feb 25, 2012, 12:53 AM
    Very sorry to say that she has no interest in you. Not anymore. And its best not to keep contacting her and becoming a nuisance. Just move on. You'll eventually find someone else.
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    Feb 26, 2012, 04:53 PM


    Talaniman Rule - Never get stuck on some one thats NOT stuck on YOU!!

    I suggest you do as she says if you don't want to go to jail, or get beat up by her dad!
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    Feb 26, 2012, 05:07 PM
    As soon as she said that she will call the police if you don't stop bothering her, that should have been your wake up call. Actually, you should have woken up before that.

    She's changed her mind, which she's allowed to do.

    You may want her, but a relationship isn't about what one person wants. Both of you have to want it, and she no longer does.

    Move on.
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    Feb 26, 2012, 05:08 PM


    Sorry what possessed you to send her a "wrong" photo of you after chatting and talking for 3 months. You caused this from what I can tell, she feels you are either a fool, or was lying of both. Sorry unless you just go over and see her in person, and/or her father, explain how stupid you were and sorry.
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    Feb 28, 2012, 05:11 AM
    Sorry if I was bit unclear in my first post. In fact I did not send her any wrong photos. I sent my own photo same she liked too. Just a previous day of our fist meet I gave her a wrong impression about myself on phone. It's nothing but she believed it completely so much so that she couldn't come out of it even after I met her. But why I did this? I just wanted to see her reactions that's it.. but this went terribly wrong, I never thought she will take her decision based on what I made her to believe. Its like a prank I've done. She thought its true and next call she did not answer, even before we meet. There after she hurt me so much by not responding me and then later rejecting me. Recently I had written her a strong mail commenting on her. Its all about a sort of misunderstanding but Im ended up with feeling bad and sad!
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    Feb 28, 2012, 06:15 AM
    Still doesn't matter. She's not interested anymore and has told you so. Time to look for someone else.

    And this time around, I suggest you don't try and play silly mind games with someone.
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    Feb 28, 2012, 10:51 AM
    You are obsessed. What you need to do is leave this girl alone. She was VERY clear when she told you to stay away, don't pursue something that doesn't want to be chased. If the parents and/or police are brought into this, you will regret it. Respect her wishes, stop contacting her, and move on. Forcing her to be with you is not something you can do, and if you could, she would hate you for it. This is way past the point of you "convincing" her.
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