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Ok this might sound kinda ridiculous but i need some serious advice here... I have been talking to a girl online for almost 3 years now and i have never met her, i live about 10 hours from her, but here lately it seems we have come closer than we have ever been, no love deal or anything, its just as if she listens to everything i have to say and i do her as well, last year i was with a girl that forbid me talking to her so i just hid it but i still talked to her and that brought us closer and now im recently single and she has ask me to come meet her numerous times but i never did, cant say that i didnt want to, it just never happened... So my ? now is should i finally go meet her while we are both single?
If you are both single and adult then no harm in meeting. Just make sure it's in a public place and you let someone know where you are going. If she is sensible she will want to take these precautions too. Just arrnage to go for a drink and chat and have fun. There is no pressure on either of you to take it any further. Just see how you get on
I've met lots of lovely people from the internet (only one weirdo haha)
Before you meet her, step back and ACTUALLY layout the dynamics of dating someone a full day's drive (oneway) away from you. This is not kids' stuff. This is a significant time/money commitment for every little meeting you might want.
KEEPING a relationship going that was local and then became LD, that's one thing. This is totally different.
Worse, because of the long travel times you're going to risk feeling pressured to "get more accomplished" on each date. That's really, REALLY not good.
Don't leave your common sense at home, as you know nothing about this persons past, or present, and don't be blinded by expectations you may have. See it for what it is. Two strangers.
Well I found out the hard way that if you are having serious relations on the computer with a REALLY close friend that in person it is way akward...because the person has been in such deep conversation over the internet or whatever then you'll most likely have a hard time being as comfortable at first or for the first little while with them in person because it's a hell of alot easier telling someone something over the computer or messenger of whatever kind then in person. So take it slow and talk alot about the conversations you never could finish. I think you'll find sooner or later that you like this person, but don't be nervous it happens to people alot when they are close to another of the opposite sex unless they are bisexual or gay/lezbien. Remember not to do anything wierd to freak her out though...not that you would you just have to be sure that she's decently comfortable around you in person. But whatever you do don't do long distance relationship, they are one of the most painful things ever when you wake up everyday knowing you can't see them. It's horrible, but as long as you can't see them everyday I suggest that you don't take the chance of being hurt. Because once you break up over it not working cause of the pain then there is a 99.9 percent chance that things between you will never be the same again...because once you've been through that with someone it's rare that you ever get out of it being good friends again, or even besties. Think hard on your actions and be careful, you seem like a really sensitive guy and I hate to think of another one of them being hurt in the world allthough it's not my choice on anything you do. I'm just here to help. I hope it works if you take the advice.
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