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How can I tell that a girl likes me?

Asked Apr 15, 2012, 05:01 AM — 6 Answers
People, I have fallen in love with this awesome girl I met during the 1st year of college. She drives me so crazy. I am a basically a shy guy and I don't have the guts to tell her how much i love her, and how much I want to support her, and be there for her at her desperate times.
I can't tell her because I feel that I am not good enough for her. She is a very bright, funny, smart and very friendly person. Oh i forgot to mention very cute too!!! I know that my feelings for her are true. I just want to grab her hand and tell how much i have waited to tell her about my feelings for her. My question is how can I, a person who is not confident about himself ever tell such a wonderful person like her that I love her so much. I just can't forget her too??. I tried so hard and I failed in this aspect too. Do you people think that I should just tell the truth to her about how I fell about her and get it over with no matter what the outcome is??? I think of her daily for hours together. I thought I could control myself from thinking about her but i was so wrong. Please somebody help me I am desperate for an answer.

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Apr 15, 2012, 07:13 AM
Hi srichu.
Can I ask why you don't feel like you are good enough for her? Rather then sizing yourself up to her why not just be an equal. I didn't catch in your post if your actually friends right now or is she someone just in passing you have fallen for?

I would not be forward and put it all on the line right now with your feelings. If you do this it might be scary for her. You don't want her to back away before she has the chance to get to know you. I would just be her friend. If your in classes together ask her questions. Just try to open the lines of communication first before you go ahead and put it all out there. You don't want to embarrass yourself and scare her.
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Apr 15, 2012, 11:29 AM


In my culture we start with saying hi, and being friends, and work our way up to dating a relationship, marriage/living together and babies, if we get that far.

No need for a 10 page confession speech the fist chance you get. Just say hi, and go fom there. But if you think you are not good enough, then you are not ready fo a healthy adult relationship, and should sit in a corner and dream on! (JOKE???)
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Apr 15, 2012, 11:35 AM


Since you have not obviously talked to her much, have not been on dates with her and have not discussed beliefs on all types of things, you are "in love" with a image that she will almost never live up to. If we start having a fantasy life about someone it is not real

Next at least in my society if you grabbed her by the hand and told her all of this, the would think you were a nut case and you would be lucky not to be arrested.

What you do ? you ask her out for coffee or a lunch, you talk to her and get to know her.
You start to see her as a real person, not a goddess to be worshiped
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Apr 16, 2012, 11:42 AM
Thank u people for all ur help.Keep up the good work!!
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Apr 16, 2012, 12:55 PM


Definitely try to be friends with her and get to know each other better first. The more comfortable you two are as friends, the easier it will be for you to tell her how you feel. The reason you feel so uncomfortable right now is because you don't know each other very well yet.

So take the first step of getting to know each other better first before you worry about the next step.
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Apr 16, 2012, 10:30 PM
I dont think its possible to love someone until you really get to know them. What you have is attraction. Just go say hi!
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