A month ago I couldve sworn she was head over heals for me..2 weeks ago when she wanted a break it was a shock to me..and now one week ago that she's simply left me her friends tell me how she's going to ibiza in a couple of weeks and she's having the time of her life..and that she told them that she just stopped caring for me and that is that...
How can that even happen??
I feel so weak.. and helpless and I know I dont need her but I do..

emopunk7

"and it just saddened me because there was more that I wanted for us to do before we called it quits.."

Nick...Be glad nothing more happened. The pain would've been even more unbearable. Be glad. It wasn't meant to be. With my ex I had many problems and I felt like maybe I'm not good or can't keep a girl happy or something, but now my current gf gets along with me almost perfectly. We don't have any of the issues I had before. I love my gf now sooo much. Hope this gives you some inspiration! Now GO meet some real Women! I'm wishing you the best my friend!!!

nickshehe

I had blocked her on msn and I unblocked her only to find that she's also blocked me...
I don tunderstand why she's angry at me..
Im thinking that I dont want to lose her in my life..I was thinking of even going to the extent of telling her I want to stay friends with her..would that be a good idea?
I mean yes I have feelings for her, but part of me thinks that if we start talking again she might get a rush of what we used to be like or something...

nickshehe

ok she just messaged me on msn and unblocked me..this is a weird coincidence..ill post soon and let you know what happened.

nickshehe

uhm.. I apologised again on msn she said its ok..
and I told her that I want to atleast stay friends with her and such..and she said I didnt think you would want that..and I said it would be immature of us to let the circumstances get in the way..and she said she doesnt mind talking(that kind of pissed me off, I dont mind talking does that mean)..anw she said she didnt want to talk about us anymore and she just started asking me abuot how my trip to amsterdam was and stuff like that...
weird..
how am I sposed to intepret this?

talaniman

By your own words, to her you have been put in friends zone, and thats where you will stay, so be ready to be confused, as she no longer wants, or expects, to discuss getting back together, and will only go for idle chit-chat, until someone comes along, and occupies her time. Maybe you can't see that, but her message is more than clear, by words and actions, she is thru being your g/f. If you harbor any illusions thats what she means, I suggest strongly you follow your heart, and open yourself up to a lot more misery, and pain, than you now have. Or you could cut the contact completely, and allow yourself a chance to heal, so you can move on, and find peace and happiness, without her. Your choice. Rest assured, no amount of talking, or begging, will change her mind. Sorry for your loss.

nickshehe

I told her that my intentions were for us to be friends now anyway..and that I wasnt aspiring to convince her to go out with me again or anything..and I told her that we can only be friends if we both want it..and that from past experiences I knew that she might be talking to me because she wants me on a leash and if those were her intentions to stop talking to me..(that was dumb of me but anyway)..
I also asked her if she minded if I could stay at her place while she was away when I go back to the UK while she's gone for a few days because I wont have any place to stay..(I was meant to go there before we broke up).. - yes another stupid move on my part
She said she did but if I didnt have anywhere to go its okay..then I refused because she didnt want too..
then I told her I had to go somewhere and I left...

She has alot of studying to do so I figure she's just bored and she contacted me on msn..
I don't see any purpose into what she's doing except that she maybe wants me to linger on..Her friend told me she did that to a guy once and admitted that she just wanted him to want her back by giving him false hope...
Whatever the case Im avoiding that trap..

Do you all think its a bad idea that im talking to her??

Possible scenarios are:

We stop talking altogether - she misses me, comes back - I decide what to do
or stop talking - both move on with our lives.

if we continue talking - take things back and forth..though we arent talking about eachother..until one of us moves on first
continue talking - realises that she wants to be with me - I decide what to do ***

***is this scenario realistic??

If I wanted her to come back do you think I would have to keep the contact to a minimum?
I mean I told her its a shame to just stop talking since we had history..so I cant contradict myself and tell her to stop talking to me and leave me alone..

How can all of this backfire?

nickshehe

- I just read your post talaniman...Im guessing I messed up then :/
no way to salvage it?

talaniman

Salvage your self esteem, and dignity and be a better person, for what life has for you. I've been where you are, and am glad those exes dumped me, and made me a good fit, with my wife of 30 something years.
We all mess up. Don't dwell on it. Click on the links in my signature, and get some great ideas about what to do now. Read them all and see if they make sense and let us know.

nickshehe

we talked againa nd I told her I needed to know...
I even suggested gettin gback together to fix things but she wouldnt have any of that...
..
I just took 1 step forward two steps back

nickshehe

I got the closure I want..
Theres no point on dwelling on it anymore since its in the grave...moving on is now inevitable..

people suck :/