I need tips on how to approach girl you don`t know and start a convo with her, gettin along and make her easy goin....i am shy guy and hardly can take the first step...i really hate to get embarresed or somthing so i wouldn`t risk my chances there unless am sure of hunt.

Wildcat21

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turtlegirl

I met an awesome shy guy this weekend and he had no game and I LIKED that. He was just talkimg to his friends and he is really funny and smart, so I (who often consider myself shy) kept going over to talk to him. Hopefully I'll see him again, but we were both too shy/inexperienced/not smooth to plan anything or ask for numbers. But I LOVED that he was just himself and he wasn't trying to pick anyone up. I am SOOOOOO sick of that game.

Be real.

Wildcat21

I agree with Turtle - it should be that easy with the right woman. But make sure to ask for a phone number.

Then call her a couple days later and ask her to coffee - keep it light.

Wildcat21

Turtle - he didn't ask for your number?

turtlegirl

Well, er, our mutual friend told me he was shy and if I wanted anything to happen I would have to say something. So I said I know you're leaving on Tuesday (he's going out of the country for a few weeks), but I really like you if you want to get together Sunday or Monday...that was good. He kissed me. But then his friends were leaving and there were people all around and it just didn't happen. But he's really not smooth so I wasn't taking it personally.

My plan is that when I see our mutual friend I'm going to ask for his number and call him next month when he gets back to the US. Just once. See what happens.

I'm really really excited about him. But he is 25 -- he had no idea I was as old as I am, but it didn't particularly phase him. He doesn't seem like all the other 25 year olds, not smooth and transparent.

Is the plan okay? What do you think?

Wildcat21

The plan is great. Not too agressive, which is good.

I just wonder if all his inexperience frustrates you later - and, I have a strong feeling he may have some wuss-boy behavior later . Obviously I have not met him though. Hey, he went for a kiss though - that's great. Sparks?

I'd like to see him step up to the plate though and be agressive.

Look at you, you and the youngsters.

turtlegirl

SPARKS!!!! Not shallow lust sparks, but wow you are a supersmart funny well-traveled interesting person SPARKS!!! I'm pining. It's good he went away because now I can't come on too strong. Happy thoughts...
YAY!! A good guy I think.

Wildcat21

Great for you! He is in for a heluva a good time if he plays his cards right.

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