This is one of the most difficult decisions I've ever had to make. My B/F and I have been together for two years. We have a very unique relationship. I am a single mom and devote most of my time to my daughter. He is in med-school. Although we talk every day, we only spend time together one day a week. Sometimes we do lunch but for the most part we end up with one day. This actually works well for both of us. We love each other, and enjoy each other company. He doesn't spend much time around my daughter, but when he does, he is good with her. My problem is......

In the past three months it has become apparent that my B/F is racist. He is not super extreme, but he does judge people by the color of their skin. He believes that people are in groups by the color of their skin. Most people stereotype within reason. However, I was raised in a very open minded family. My sister is dating someone of another race (he doesnt know this). We were raised to judge everyone as individuals.

Could this relationship ever work? I don't want his beliefs imposed on my daughter or any children we may have together. I see him as ignorant!

Mom of 2

I don't think that anyone is attacking you. If anything, we sometimes feel the need to protect people who post a question if we happen to see a lot of red flags as to why a relationship would not work, or at best be very difficult. In the end, you will end of doing what you decide to do with the information that you have. Good luck to you!!!

Mom of 2

Yes, that one person was in fact attacking you. The post that I made ealier today was a little bit harsher than what I normally post, and because of that, I thought that you felt that I was attacking you as well. It has been bothering me until just now when I read your statement.

You have a lot of thinking to do. Just know that you are not alone and that irregardless of your age, you should not settle. It is better to not be in a relationship than to be in a wrong one. Keep strong.