hey i recenlty just broke up with my gf..we went out for 9 months..at first our relationship was secretive..well i thought her parents knew cuzz we were together all the time..but we had to call it off cuzz her parents strongly believe in not dating..so her dad made her brake up or he would remove her from her school...we are now just friends but it is very hard..she is constanlty swarmed by guys and is very friendly..we used to tlak everynight but now we talk everylike 4 days on the phone..at school she comes and spend lunch with me..but i dont want her to do it out of pity..i dont know what to do..she told me i am the most amazing guy she has ever met and that she wants to be with me for a long long time...but now she seems just fine..she hangs out with guys and her friends all the time..its like it doesnt bother her that i am out of her life...please any help would be awesome...

s_cianci

I can understand why her father wouldn't want her to date while she's still in school. Frankly I sort of feel the same way about my daughters. Dating is preparation for marriage so what's the point in dating when you're obviously way too young for marriage? Since marriage will not be the end result the only alternative is a breakup and the emotional damage that comes with it. That then becomes baggage that she's got to carry around with her for the rest of her life. Parents who have regrettably been through all of it want to spare their kids and I can't blame them. That said, take your time and relax. You've got a lot of years ahead of you before you have to worry about things like marriage and family.

talaniman

Don't be so miserable. We all have limits we must respect. Take a page from your ex's book and hang out with friends, and chase the girls. It may be heartbreaking, but not the end of the world . She is having fun, so should you.

Fr_Chuck

hanging out is dating just not going places alone. Work within her parents limits, all the guys are the same limits.

Far to often in our society everyone starts dating far to early

Skell

Whats stopping you just having fun around her and enjoying yourself like all the other guys.

If your still seeing her at school and talking to her occasionally it is like dating anyway. Just be the fun guy and im sure she will enjoy her time spent with you.

dont go moping around when your with her because you think you aren't dating. she wont enjoy that and will soon find someone else to hang with!