i know this may sound crazy but my bestfriends boyfriend doesnt love her and i've been playing the role of berstfriend because i really like her and im trying to show her that i am alot better than her boyfriend. The thing is that her boyfriend cheated on her once before and she just found out today that he's cheating on her again now im asking two questions 1.what should she do should she leave him or take a break from him 2. should i move in and make my move or just continue PLAYING bestfriend

peggyhill

Well, if he's cheating on her (and has in the past) then she should dump him. But, that's her decision to make. You can't tell her what to do. Just tell her that she has to look at the facts and his history and make the decision that is right for her. Don't move in and make a pass at her, at least not yet. You can still be there to support her and be her friend. IF she decides to break up with him, then she will need some time to heal from the hurt. After she seems to be getting over it and some time has gone by, then maybe you could tell her that your feelings for her go beyond those of friendship. Don't take advantage of someone who is feeling hurt right now. She might be emotionally vulnerable right now, but that's why she needs some time. Then, later, she will realize that even though you had feelings for her back then, you gave her the time and space she needed to make a decision about her feelings for you. Even if she doesn't feel the same way, she will be glad that you didn't try to move in when she was on the rebound and she will respect you for it. Hope this helps!

statictable

Be her friend and be supportive as she hopefully has enough "brights" to cancel this guy. Hold on to your feelings until she is completely over her relationship.