Help with love?

SandBaby22 · Oct 28, 2006, 03:40 PM

Here's my situation, I am in the Navy and I am currently dating someone on my ship. So it is hard for us to not want to show affection while on duty. He flat out ignores me sometimes and I get so confused about it. Also he had a fling with another girl on here and she is PISSED that we are dating and I see her leave and 15 minutes later he will come and he told me he was going to get me some food and 3 hours later she comes back and not long after he comes back. I am parinoid but should I be. We don't say I love you and wont till the time is right. My question is how can I tell if he is really into me, he spends all his off time with me and he comes back early just to spend time with me. He used to be a male stripper and has "been around" and VERY goodlooking and I just find it hard to believe that me an average girl would be his type. I NEED HELP i am so CONFUSED.

Sandy

SandBaby22 · Nov 1, 2006, 12:38 PM

I understand I might be too clingy now but when I want something bad enough I will stop at nothing to get it!!!! He told me not to trust him not because he isn't trust worthy but because it takes a while to get to gain someones trust and he wants to take things slow and that is what we are doing but I have been hurt in the past by a cheater so it is going to take me a while to really trust a man again. I will see how we are after a little while longer and if it doesn't work then it was never meant to be... but I really like this guy and I am going to not put 100% of me into him like I have done before I will only end up hurt again!!!

Wildcat21 · Nov 1, 2006, 03:42 PM

"I want something bad enough I will stop at nothing to get it!!!!" - well relationships and love do not work that way EVER!!!! Never. YOU WILL PUSHJ THEM AWAY FOREVER if you do that - that's 100% guranteed. Always happens.

See - he told you already - even he knows. I thought he was aplyaer and I didn't even know him. "He told me not to trust him not because he isn't trust worthy"

I think thisis a short fling. Seriously.

Skell · Nov 1, 2006, 09:06 PM

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Dating is about fun and doing things that are fun. Being om a ship in the Navy is serious business. A job. So in essense you are in a workplace relationship and they are difficult at best. Now in a little over a month you have all this workplace drama in your relationship and your job and you think there is hope? There are so many red flags going on here that you need to recognise and RUN like hell from. HIGH SCHOOL ON THE HIGH SEAS. Why date someone you don't trust after a month?

had to spread it Tal, but this is so true.
Couldnt have said it better myself. Not that i ever could anyway.

Listen to this. If this doesnt just scream common sense to you then something is wrong!

Wildcat21 · Nov 2, 2006, 09:04 AM

What's the above poster doing? tryin gdrive traffic to that sight?

Same post over and over.



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