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I'm a married women, my husband is amazing but I'm really falling for a new guy at work, I can't stop thinking about him , we talk allot and he is confiding in me regarding trouble in his own marriage. To top it all off he's in love with my best friend and co-worker who just broke up with her husband. This sounds like a soap . Help I 'm a mess.
Sorry. I don't know what else to tell you except to back off no good can come of this. Your marriage will be in trouble and you might lose your best friend into the bargain. You should also try to talk some sense into your friend. She is heading for a brick wall.
I'm not sure what kind of help you need beyond reinforcement of your own knowledge that this infatuation is foolish and destructive. I have to disagree with your statement that you can't stop thinking about him. You can stop, but so far at least, you have chosen not to. If you continue down the path you're on it will bring heartache to everyone involved.
Take a step back and ask yourself what's right and what is really important to you in the long run, and start making choices that are consistent with the answers. It's a cop out to imagine that you can't help what you think and feel. Thoughts, feelings and actions all arise from choices. Granted, you may not be fully aware of making some of these choices, but that just means that you need to look more deeply and honestly into your own motives to find their origin.
Just imagine how hard he is laughing at you, and your friend, for being stupid enough to fall for his tale of woe. Neither of you knows anything about the new guy except what he tells you, so he knows he has two lulu's on a string. Yes it is like a soap opera and all you have to do is change the channels. Or keep providing him with free entertainment.
This situation may be a sign that your own marriage is in trouble--if you are falling for another man who is confiding in you. If you love your husband and love being married to him, work on your own marriage to make it stronger. If you value your husband, do not pursue this any further.
I say be with your husband if you love him and your happy. Then don't screw it up. You may just have a crush. I don't belive in divorce unless it nesacery like he cheated or hit you or he's a threat to you or some one else. So don't do that to some one you said I do. He is suppose to be forever.
I'm a married women, my husband is amazing but I'm really falling for a new guy at work, I can't stop thinking about him , we talk allot and he is confiding in me regarding trouble in his own marriage. To top it all off he's in love with my best friend and co-worker who just broke up with her husband. This sounds like a soap . Help I 'm a mess.
there is a difference between falling in love and having affection toward someone, or you may just lust him.
you may be in a rut with your marraige and need to rekindle your passion. you are doing a lot of talking with someone thaat needs a shoulder to cry on and yo u are misunderstanding your feelings. it like the therapist that no longer is professional and the need to get personal interferes with the relationship. he cant commit to a relationship because the first is still broken and jumping to quick can hurt more people. dont complicate matters and make them worse. back off if you can't handle the emotions you have.
This sounds like a movie script, something like "Dumb and Dumber". You say your husband is really amazing. You will find out just how amazing if you pursue this infatuation with a new co-worker. I highly doubt this new guy at work is in love with your best friend - he most likely is in lust. Which I think you are also. Someone needs to take a firehose to the office and turn it on full blast and cool down the raging hormones there! What a pack of sleaze!! Very unprofessional. Get your head on straight and start thinking with your brain and not your "chemical reaction" to this new office worker. I would bet anything he is using both you and your best friend and laughing his off about it.
I don't belive in divorce unless it nesacery like he cheated or hit you or he's a threat to you or some one else. So don't do that to some one you said I do. He is suppose to be forever.
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