Do men value women's kindness, purity and success?

Or you men don't care about it...

Ash123

Of course.....but being physically attracted too is important as well.

The Lake House

What if she is a beautiful cow but doesn't give them the milk...

Ash123

no sex?

Well, how old are you? I think a guy will wait if he is:

1) in High School
2) shares your same values and wants to get married one day.
3) you are really hot and he thinks you all can do "it" one day

being good at oral can be satisfying to him as well.

GeniusfromGeniusHell

Kindess, yes. Absolutely. In fact kindness is #1 for me.

Purity, no. Purity is an abstract that only exists in your head. If a guy prefers you to be a virgin, then he is sexually immature or dysfunctional in some way.

Success. Sure, if it contributes to your happiness.

GeniusfromGeniusHell

Then it is like a photograph of a bag full of money.

Sad Soul

I really like this point. I think I always thought this, but you put this into words for me. Thank you so much.

Anyway, yeah guys can love all those things, but they can just as easily respect and love a woman who, for example, isn't pure
or we can throw another characteristic out there, like being pretty.

It all depends on your outlook on people and life.

And the characteristics you pointed out were great. If a man doesn't like them, a woman should walk away proud, and knowing something better's to come.

Ash123

I am being overly simplistic, but without more facts "Lake House" it's hard to comment exactly in regards to such things as:

1) your age?
2) the lifestyle of the man in question
3) your values
4) your dating history

The Lake House

1. 28
2. simliar to me, he is a virgin as well, 30 yr-old. His family (includes himself) are very traditional and religious.
3. similar to his. He has a very high dating standards so do I. Morals come first. Kindess, achievement...both of us are very family oriented., that's important for both of us.
4. very few, so is his.
edited-both of us have many admirers back in the old days, but we were both focusing on career and self-improvement instead of chasing fun.
We enjoy the same books, share similar interest, both busy with work but we make time for each other.

Leidenschaftlich für Wahr

AWW thats so cute! Yall sound really good for each other! And yes, if he has any sense of moral value then yes he will value YOU for being a virgin. He is a Christian, yes? well religious anyway Im guessing.
Yes, he will admire your purity, as long as you keep it firm in his head that you are serious about it