hey all,

i am feeling like i am unsure of my relationship right now, he deleted his myspace and so did i, but i found out he cheated some months ago, and now i am like i love him so much but i dont want to go through this again, he said it will never happen again and it was the first time, but i dont know what to do or believe, i just dont know... any advice because i feel like i want to be with him but im not sure, and my heart feels all the way broken.. i know i have told him that i dont all the way trust him in the past but i did and now it feels like why... please give me some insight.... thanks.. incouraging words, and advice would be helpful...

Nohitter410

once a cheater always a cheater...if he is willing to work then I say consider it if you truly love him but if he has to tell you it was the first time then I would be hesitant.

Make him work for it and don't just give in because he is the appearance of what you think you want.

drop

I think you should hold out for what I call great sincerity. That is, if someone hurts you in an obvious way (like cheating!), they owe you a deep and very sincere apology with a plan to make amends at a minimum. Then, to show their sincerity, they give you the time to decide what to do and then follow through with their plan if you decide to give them a chance.

Great sincerity may not be enough to regain your trust. Certainly, it is possible their plan certainly may not work out (once a cheater, always a cheater is generally true). But, that's the way I would start out if I truly loved someone and royally screwed up...

Good luck!

talaniman

No matter what go slow until you feel YOU are ready to trust him, and do not hesitate to trust your own instincts. He had his chance, so if you feel you should get a life without him, do so for your own happiness.

starsbooty

i am still so confused.. some days it feels like i am over it. and some days it feels like the worst feeling in the world. i just do not understand this hole thing. i felt like i was an ok girlfriend and i did everything for him... today is a terrable day, i just wanna cry, and tell him leave me alone, but if he wasnt there when i got home i would be sad...what do i do...

talaniman

Could it be its not you but him? Love is not confusion and misery. And if your both not trying to work thru this, whats the point? Do what you have to to make a decision.