he says he wants time alone n doesnt kno if he loves me

talaniman · Sep 30, 2006, 04:32 AM

Moving an hour and a half away may have a lot to do with his thinking as basically you'll be unavailable to him. I also think you depend on him to make you happy way too much and this is not healthy. YOU must learn to make yourself happy. Find what makes you tick and plan things you enjoy.

lilcandybabii · Sep 30, 2006, 08:04 AM

Some thins of ma self do make me happy sometimes...but besides he always makes me happy n will change ma life better n it will improve us better in future if we find what we like to do n something. But there are somethins I like wit ma life like hangin wit ma best friend n something...so yea but 1 thin ma boyfriend won't talk to me I have tried talking to him but jst normal conversation...but he won't reply n it rilli hurts its like he's ignorin me =(

talaniman · Sep 30, 2006, 10:22 AM

No contact with him . Let him come to you if he doesn't then he isn't ready. If he can't talk to you then how can there be a relationship and you should move on with your life.

lilcandybabii · Oct 2, 2006, 10:54 PM

Okie I'm trying not to contat him, but I know it is hard 4 me not to I haven't talked to him 4 a while but then he said it was ma choice that I chose not to believe him n now he don't love me n it made me upset n but he said he do believe me that I love him...later on when I tried to sort it out I know it was all ma fault that I broke his heart n I didn't mean to hurt him...n asked him I want to know why n jst didn't understand why n I was like is it bec of me n something n he said no its jst that I was hurt n that he hurt me too n I was sad n I said I'm sorry if I hurt you

n then I told him if he's still wit me that I would be so much happy wit him n it would work out if we sort it out n prove it to love each other n he's tha only 1 I could be wit n he makes me so happy n blah blah...n I know he didn't like tha way I was saying n I didn't mean to hurt him n he was like I know, I'm sorry if I hurt you...so yea. Oh when I hug him n told him that I love him

n he's like

marie I can't.. N I feel that he jst doesn't want to be hurt again by me n I feel stupid n it was all ma fault

I don't think he will get bak wit me because he was hurt n don't think he will 4give me. But then I'm not going to talk to him 4 a while n let him be n think 4 a while

Knowledgefinder · Oct 2, 2006, 11:18 PM

It seems like time apart is the best thing for the both of you right now. Trying to talk about it or work through it, right now at least, is only going to make things worse between the two of you.

However, if you still love him and care for him, just flat out staying away from him without explaining why is not the way to go, in my opinion. Let him know that you'd like to give both him and yourself the space you both need, so that you can both cool off and think things over. Let him know that if and when he is ready to talk to you, tell him to come see you. Tell him you'll be there for him if he needs you, as a friend. It's very important that you are there for him as a friend first before being his lover.

If you both work on being friends, good friends, recreating the strong bond you once shared, it'll make things easier for you both when and if the day comes that you may want to be lovers again.

he says he wants time alone n doesnt kno if he loves me

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