I have some problem wit me and ma boyfriend :confused: I know there is a lot of azzholes out there... apart frm ma boyfriend he's a good guy but I thot he seems to want to be in a serious relationship like I want to... im not interested wit 1 night stand or flirtin any 1 or those kind of silly thins I'm not those kind of girls out there, but even though ma boyfriend and I having some issues I don't know rilli... iam confused and he mite seems confused like he did loved me 4 who I am and cared for me... but then all of a sudden he says to me "dont u think its funni how we nva an arguement" or something then in a few minutes later... then he started saying few thins to me like small few stuff like how do I know if I am tha 1 there are others out there, also he saying he wants to tell me something but 4 he do he wants to say that he rilli loves me so much and he care for me... n then he says that frm what he feels about himself that he feel he's trapped and got a lot of pressure frm me, that he's also is depressed... n I don't rememba tha rest but it made me upset frm what he was saying to me... I feel there's something about him why he saying this to me and hurt me like he had to I don't understand... but then he said to me do you think its too good to be true or something eh... n also he said to me 1 thin he wants me to promised him that if eva happens to "us" that I will find some 1 that who will make me happy and but he will always loves me and care about me that I will be his best friend he eva had... he has made me cry and some thins he said like he wants this hurt to end to promise him this... I feel that he wants to break up but he saying another way instead of saying its ova or saying I want to break up or something... I isn't too sure but he's confusin me. I rilli love him so much he means tha world to me there's no way I could be witout him I can't leave witout him but what he don't understand is that he don't know how much he loves me, also it makes me feel he doesn't know what love is but then I made it a little worse what I thot frm what he was saying b4n I eventually broke his heart and he was upset but he were sad frm tha start... I rilli need help to know what he's rilli after or what he wants I know its hard but I'm feel lost. Then he says he doesn't believe in love anymore after all I said stuff I felt stupid 4 saying this to him which I didn't mean it and I didn't mean to stuff this up :( then in nxt day I asked him if he still loves me... hes like I used to and it made me cry... I don't know what I have done and then later on he's like he doesn't know if he loves me and also its because he said he thinks I don't believe him that he loves me... I told him many times that I do believe him but he sometimes doesn't listen he hardly talks to me now... n he seems to be changed abit too... im dwn atm he don't know how bad I feel and I feel so hurt... also he say he needs time to think and have time alone 4 awhile... I guess he probbly doesn't love me like I do. Like I mite think I'm not good enough for him or I'm not tha 1 he wants to be wit... so he hasn't even been talking to me much 4 3wks or 2wks... hasnt even seen him ova tha wkends 4 almost 3wks :( n I have been wit him 4 3mths... he is ma 1st boyfriend and ma 1st love and I am his 1st girlfriend n 1st love too.. so its our 1st time and I know its hard it seems... but I know what love is because of him I am 20 yrs old (jst turned 20 on 13th sept) n he is 18 yrs old... we only c each other ova tha wkends... we both live in brisbane but am moving to goldcoast wit ma parents and bro... n I am so sad because I'll be missing ma boyfriend he lives near southbank it may take 1 hr and a half so it feels like its abit far away frm each other... I hope me and ma boyfriend would come bak to me and work out sometimes soon I don't want to lose him I have no guy friends and I don't need them because I don't go parties and I don't always go out much... but I have 2 girls are ma 2 bestfriends... I have them both are on ma side who support me and help me through some few thins... but ma boyfriend he's all I eva want to be wit... I don't want another guy no more once he leaves me 4 nothing I don't want another love... I feel I want to be me, ma self and I... so what can I do? How do I know if he does rilli love me? 1 of ma bestie says give him time and let him be if he loves me he will come bak and some says tha same thin... wut if he doesn't? But frm what ma bestie told me that she has spoken to him and he told her about me that he rilli loves me and he wouldn't know what to do witout me and he have got lot of pressure and blah blah... but he said he needs time alone and so... but I guess he put me on hold... I don't know or maybe he's a cover up or saying those thins instead of saying another of saying its ova or so... so I guess he wants to break up :( so pweeaze what can I do? I love him way too much...

Moving an hour and a half away may have a lot to do with his thinking as basically you'll be unavailable to him. I also think you depend on him to make you happy way too much and this is not healthy. YOU must learn to make yourself happy. Find what makes you tick and plan things you enjoy.

some thins of ma self do make me happy sometimes... but besides he always makes me happy n will change ma life better n it will improve us better in future if we find what we like to do n something. But there r somethins I like wit ma life like hangin wit ma best friend n something... so yea but 1 thin ma boyfriend won't talk to me I have tried talking to him but normal conversation... but he won't reply n it rilli hurts its like he's ignorin me =(

No contact with him . Let him come to you if he doesn't then he isn't ready. If he can't talk to you then how can there be a relationship and you should move on with your life.

Okie I'm trying not to contat him, but I know it is hard for me not to I haven't talked to him for a while but then he said it was ma choice that I chose not to believe him and now he don't love me and it made me upset and but he said he do believe me that I love him... later on when I tried to sort it out I know it was all ma fault that I broke his heart and I didn't mean to hurt him... n asked him I want to know why n didn't understand why n I was like is it because of me and something and he said no its that I was hurt and that he hurt me too and I was sad and I said I'm sorry if I hurt u :( n then I told him if he's still wit me that I would be so much happy wit him and it would work out if we sort it out and prove it to love each other and he's tha only 1 I could be wit and he makes me so happy and blah blah... n I know he didn't like tha way I was saying and I didn't mean to hurt him and he was like I know, I'm sorry if I hurt u... so yea. Oh when I hug him and told him that I love him :( n he's like :( marie I cant.. n I feel that he doesn't want to be hurt again by me and I feel stupid and it was all ma fault :( I don't think he will get bak wit me because he was hurt and don't think he will 4give me. But then I'm not going to talk to him for a while and let him be and think for a while

It seems like time apart is the best thing for the both of you right now. Trying to talk about it or work through it, right now at least, is only going to make things worse between the two of you.

However, if you still love him and care for him, just flat out staying away from him without explaining why is not the way to go, in my opinion. Let him know that you'd like to give both him and yourself the space you both need, so that you can both cool off and think things over. Let him know that if and when he is ready to talk to you, tell him to come see you. Tell him you'll be there for him if he needs you, as a friend. It's very important that you are there for him as a friend first before being his lover.

If you both work on being friends, good friends, recreating the strong bond you once shared, it'll make things easier for you both when and if the day comes that you may want to be lovers again.