is he the right guy?

dalyhoknz · #1 Jun 19, 2007, 11:31 PM

Hi,

My relationship is happen two years ago, i know the guy well, he from a family member. He in his relationship for 4 years, and planing to get marry. I meet him and we start to connected, kissing and a year later we lead to making love, and we just get close and closer to each other.
Last two month he left his girlfriend, and i figures it out cause he can't stand the guilt. Which i always thought it was love, i thought he love me that why he make a move from her. He was in a guilt stage and went oversea for a relaxing time. Two weeks later he came back and we spend time talking about what he was doing oversea, lead out that he
stay with a random girl at oversea for a the whole time, put he even have the photo to show me that he was with her and she all that, sweet and nice to him...

Im so confuse, dont knwo what i have been doing with him all these time, love him want to be with him even those he with someone else.

what shold i do? move on, stay with him, put up with him?

Thanks

Clough · Jun 20, 2007, 12:25 AM

It sounds like he is still trying to find out who he is. Also, it sounds like he is in no way ready for a relationship that involves any sort of commitment to another person. I would suggest backing off concerning a relationship with him and actively looking for other possibilities for a relationship for you.

If he is truly ready to be in a relationship where he will be committed to that relationship, then you will know because of honest and open communication with each other. You already communicate with him and he appears to be honest and open with you.

Please protect your heart! Don't get involved with him if you want a relationship that involves commitment with him. He may have qualities that you really, really like in a person. But, please realize that he may not be the one for you.

Most of the time, it takes a long time to really get to know another person - months, even maybe a number of years.

There are lots of fish in the sea. I am sure that you will find someone else, if you are looking for a relationship that involves any sort of commitment right now.

I am hopeful that others will offer their insights and opinions as to what is going on concerning your question.

Kattalover · Jun 20, 2007, 05:45 AM

This man was engaged to be married and cheated on his fiancee for two years. My recommendation is to move on - and stay away from men who are in a relationship in the future!

SAB123 · Jun 20, 2007, 05:58 AM

I would stay away. If he cheated on his fiance theirs a chance he'll do it to you



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