1 year and 5 months ago, me and my ex boyfriend, completely fell inlove. Everything was great for the first 3 months. Then we started argueing, he decided we should take a break b/c we argued alot, so we did, I was completely and utterly lost without him! I became depressed, well we both promised that we wouldn't date or do anything with anyone else. After a week, we got back together. Well about a week later, we broke up again, b/c this time he wanted to know if he really loved me and missed me. We were broken up for maybe 2 or 3 weeks, then I saw him in public, and it was like we fell inlove all over again, he gave me a huge hug and told me that he thinks about me all the time. That night, he called me at about 2:00 am, we talked for about an hour, and he asked if he could come over, he did, and I don't think I had ever been so happy in my life, we got back together. We were good for about 3 months, then one night we got into a hugeeee arguement in public, and didn't speak for almost 2 months, I didn't call him and he didn't call me. So we both took it as a breakup. One of my friends decided to tell me that she liked him, well I finally called him, and we talked alot, then he wrote me a letter and told me how much he loves me and how much he can live without me, how I am his other half, and he's not whole without me, so we got back together. Now 5 months later, after everything had went so good, he came outta the blue and told me that he thinks we need a break, these were his reasons, we fight, were too young, we need to focus on school. He loves me and he says he knows I'm the one for him, and that its hard right now, but in the long run it will be better for us. That was 4 days ago. My heart is completely shattered. When me and him are together, its like theirs nothing else in the world. I know he loves me, and our friends know it too. He told me that when were broken up, he constantly thinks about me, he can't date/sleep with anyone. He misses me terribly. I don't understand why he's doing this. Some say is commitment phobia, some say he just wants to be single and figure out things. All I know is that I love him and deep down, I really do believe it is true love, I believe in my heart that we will get back together. He is my heart and soul, I feel empty and lonely without him. I love him more than anything in the world, I just hope he knows that. He can come back to me whenever he's ready..b/c love will always fine a way..and it has for us.

chuff

I'm not really sure what your question was but this relationship is/was not healthy. It sounds more like a month long booty call with breakups then a relationship. I'd end it and find a solid man but perhaps you'll need to experience a couple more break ups to realize this is not stable. It's up to you.